(Closed) Bridesmaid Rant

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oooh, I love a good Bridesmaid or Best Man Rant!

Well, the obvious response is to remind her about the schedule of events. Tell her you’ve given her plenty of notice ahead of time so she would be able to arrange her schedule. Also remind her that she doesn’t HAVE to stay at the hotel on Friday, you just wanted to see who WANTS to.

Get your BM’s together or send a group email again with the schedule. I’ve been preparing my girls for months too, as some have to fly in and some have kids. No one seems miffed at the plans and they all expect to spend the whole day and night before devoted to wedding events.

Post # 4
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

maybe she meant church for rehearsal? woo sahh…calm…

wait a couple of days and call her to talk after you’ve cooled a bit. she may not have realized all the stuff that is going on before the actual ceremony.

i had the hardest time with some of my BMs because they were unmarried and have never been BMs. one didnt understand why we were getting ready so early – like duh, pictures.

Post # 5
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I really hate it when BMs don’t plan ahead. I’m like, pretty lax about BMs. All I expect them to do is get their dresses, shoes, make their own travel arrangements and show up for the rehearsal/actual wedding day (and yes, that means spending the whole day with the wedding party!).

Luckily, as others have said, you have PLENTY of time to remind her of the schedule. Tell her that she knew going into this what the deal was, and if she be there, then give her an easy out (without asking her to leave, of course).

I mean like, bare minimum, you gotta be at the flippin’ wedding!

Post # 6
235 posts
Helper bee

I’ll rant for you:

I have a Bridesmaid or Best Man who is the communications director for a Member of Congress who is up for re-election and she is taking the Friday before my wedding off – TWO WEEKS BEFORE THE ELECTION.  How is it that your Bridesmaid or Best Man doesn’t understand the obligations?!  I am completely baffled by BMs like this – my sister’s are all like this too!  WTF?

Post # 7
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think to avoid future problems, you need to lay out your timeline asap.  Share it with her so she knows whats expected of her.  Tell her you need her from 3 pm on Friday afternoon until 3 am the night of the wedding or something like that. 

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