- 2 years ago
Forgive me bees, I just need a bit of a rant.
I am bridesmaid for one of my oldest friends, who I love dearly. BUT I am having such a headache organising her bachelorette. There is one other bridesmaid plus her Maid/Matron of Honor (sister).
The other two girls are lovely, but I don’t know them well and they are so disorganised it has me tearing my hair out. The other two girls were meant to be organising accommodation for the bachelorette, but didn’t manage to do it so now I’m hosting the bachelorette at my house. I have 25 girls (many of whom I don’t know) coming to stay at my house for the weekend and my husband is having to vacate for the weekend.
This alone has me in a panic. I am super blessed to have a house which can accommodate this number of people (sharing bedrooms) but we haven’t lived here long and could only afford the house as it needs total renovations. The bachelorette is in two weeks and my husband and I are working our fingers to the bone trying to unpack, build furniture and get the house even slightly presentable. We had an electrical fault and my husband had to rip up the carpet on our top floor to access it. We now have thousands of metal staples to rip out of the floorboards so they are safe for people to walk around on without hurting themself. We both worked so long at it yesterday that our hands blistered.
I have 5 bathrooms, but only one doesn’t look like it belongs in a horror film. Really frighteningly grimy. I can’t even bring myself to think about how much laundry I am going to have to do either. Neither of the other girls has offered to help me, even though I’m only hosting to save their bacon.
I am so worried that my husband and I are going to have worked so hard and people will still turn their nose up at the accommodation I can offer them 🙁 I just want my friend, the bride, to have a wonderful bachelorette and my house is really, really shabby.
Sadly the stress doesn’t end there. We’ve only got a couple of weeks to go and the other bridesmaids (1) haven’t told me who is coming so so I can plan who to put in which room (2) haven’t organised anything for decorations (even though they were meant to) so I’ve just panic bought some on the internet (3) haven’t told the other girls how much our various activities are costing (4) haven’t asked the other girls for any money upfront so we can buy food, drink etc (5) haven’t told the other girls what they need to bring for the guest book, playlist etc.
I am just so stressed now. How do you organise something collaboratively when the other two girls are so disorganised?!! I am so worried the bride isn’t going to enjoy her bachelorette as it is just looking a mess. At this point, I feel like I just need to do it all myself to try and salvage it, but I don’t even have the names and contact details for the girls who are coming (MOH has sole access to that).
Help! Please tell me it is all going to work out OK!