Post # 1
Without going into the details, I sort of regret asking one friend over the other to be a bridesmaid. I was in friend A’s wedding years ago and although we have drfited over the years, I felt like I should include her in my wedding as well. Friend B is also in the same circle of friends (and friends with A), but last year we sort of drifted and had a falling out, but she has recently becoming a good friend again. She is the type that we can go months without talking and pick right back up. We have been friends for 10 years and I see us remaining good friends for a very long time.
Anyways, I feel bad that I picked A instead of B. I thought about asking B to do a reading, but I dont know how she will feel about that. Anything else I can do to include her and let her know I appreciate her friendship?
Post # 3
could u add her into bridal party
Post # 4
Add her to the bridal party. I dont know the date of your wedding, but you can apologize for not including her originally, and then explain exactly what you said here (excluding friend A stuff). Let her know that you see her being in your life for a long time and you couldn’t think of not having her there.
If you are closer to the date and it is too late to include her, I think a reading would be a totally appropriate and gracious thing for her to do. It’s a great honor.
Post # 5
@asianyoushi: I think it’s too late. The wedding is in 6 months and we have been planning for a year. The girls have already ordered their Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses so it would seem a little late now.
Post # 6
I guess you could have her do a reading or something, like you said…also you could invite her to the bachelorette party.
Post # 7
If your wedding is 6 months away, once the dress isn’t discontinued you still have time. Just tell her that you thought about it and realized your day wouldn’t be the same without her standing there with you and you want her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Post # 8
I made one of my friends and honorary bridesmaid…. basically she would be able to sit in the front rows, and be back there with me while getting dressed. She was very happy to do this and actually ended up taking on an unpredicted responsibility. I had typed and emailed my vows to myself, but had forgot to put them on paper. So, while she was behind scenes with me before the wedding, she wrote them out, and my photographer got some cool pics of her writing them…. so basically, she kinda had the run down on how everything would go, but since she had a wedding of her own a week after mine, 2 new kids in addition to her kids (families merging), moving, and just too much going on to be a bridesmaid, I thought this would be perfect. I just got her a lil gift to thank her. Something different than what I got the bridesmaids…. And it was a blessing to have someone who knew the workings of things who wasn’t busy being in the wedding…. so if anyone had a question (Chaplain, guests), she could answer it and was available to answer it.
Post # 9
Oh, and she wore her own dress
Post # 10
Yeah, don’t add her now, it will only look like you did it as an afterthought. I think a reading would be a nice gesture though. And don’t forget, ‘guest’ is also an honor!