(Closed) bridesmaid regret :(

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: what would you do?
    keep her in the bridal party to save friendship etc : (5 votes)
    83 %
    ask her to step down - politely! : (1 votes)
    17 %
    other ? : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    3136 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    Don’t set yourself up for disappointment. There is no rule that says she has to ask you. If you’re willing to let go of the friendship you can ask her to step down. Otherwise, just work with it!

    Post # 4
    Member
    4336 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    It sounds like you wouldnt be missing out on much if you did stop being friends, so that’s the risk you’ll take if you ask her to step down. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    7738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Since she is still being a friend, I think you should keep her. She isn’t doing anything wrong. Some girls get more excited about other peoples’ weddings, that just how it is.

    Post # 7
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    4336 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Maybe just assume from now on that she’s not going to be helpful, but for the sake of the friendship, let her show up on the day and be a BM!

    Post # 8
    Member
    986 posts
    Busy bee

    I know I’m in the minority, but I would seriously consider asking her to step down, or perhaps take on some other role like doing a reading. It would really bother me personally to look back on photos and be like “yeah, we weren’t that close but I felt obligated to keep her in my wedding party.” – But like I said, that’s just me! If you’re okay with her being not as involved, then let her stay!

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