Post # 32
Wait – I chose a yr in advance and then had major drama with one, and now we have ended our friendship and I asked instead one of my oldest friends I would’ve asked originally if I’d spent more time thinking about it.
Post # 33
No attention whores in my party! Lol
Im glad you got rid of her. HER calling YOU selfish? are yo kidding me?
Post # 34
lol I told her of there was one time in my life that I was allowed to make it all about me it was my wedding day.
Post # 35
that is precisely what I would say. I am one of the least selfish people ever. But if you try to steal my thunder when it is not necessary, or to act like your in middle school, simmah down!!
Post # 36
Please PLEASE PLEASE wait…..
So many things can happen between now and your wedding. Friendships end, people get married, people move away, people have children, people lose jobs, etc.
When I got engaged none of my bridesmaids had signficant others. Four months later, two now have boyfriends and are MIA.
I would suggest picking them about 6 months out from the wedding date. That way not too much can happen (at least we hope) and you will all have time to purchase and alter dresses……
Post # 37
Keep your girls in mind, but wait a year.
Post # 38
WAIT. My mother forced me to put my sister in our bridal party, despite my strong feelings against it. I would’ve kept her out, as we’ve grown even further apart.
Post # 39
My fiance asked his friend to be my bridesmaid behind my back(against my wishes I know what she is like and we both regret her being asked.She started to play up 6 months after being asked.
Post # 40
I think I am going to wait, either until next year in April or next summer, bc of alot of circumstances I explained in my next post.
Post # 41
@MrMrsSmith: How do you already have drama regarding bridesmaids??
Avoid anyone or anything to do with drama. You do not need a bunch of drama llamas in bridesmaids dresses showing up to your wedding.
Oh and wait a bit. If anyone asks, tell them you are going to deal with that whole thing closer to the wedding, and no you don’t have anyone picked out yet. People change, friendships change and financial situations change.
Post # 42
When I was going to pick out my bridal party, my MaleOH (my brother) decided I should boot out one of the girls, (mostly) bc of her tendencies to throw tantrums about the way she looks and prones to storming out and expecting everyone to chase after her, (but I persoanlly think it’s bc he got pissy with her and HE has tendencies to do that, cut off a friendship when he’s mad at the person, I only know bc he did it to me.)
He wanted me to replace her with another friend of mine (that he doesn’t know very well mind you) bc he thinks she’ll be a better choice, but she’s been creating drama lately and I didn’t want to deal with it.
I am going to wait though, especially after reading all the replies, I’ve decided to wait till next April or next Summer, so I have a long time to decide when and who. So I’m more relaxed and I feel a little less pressured.
Post # 43
With drama starting already, I’d wait. I personally don’t think my BFF or Future Sister-In-Law are going to bail on me, but even still, I’m not asking Future Sister-In-Law right away (BFF has known she’d be in my wedding since we were kids, and we’ve confirmed that more recently)
Post # 44
When your potential Maid/Matron of Honor is already trying to control who will be in your wedding party….red flag alert!! sounds like my brother, full of opinions!
Sounds like waiting a bit to choose them is a very smart move on your part! Now you can actually ENJOY your engagement!! 🙂
Post # 45
We are getting married in jus over 4 months, and we haven’t picked our bridesmaids or groomsmen yet. We have only asked the matron of honor and best man. We are not last minute people, but I’m sparing the bridesmaid drama as long as possible. Depending on how things go with our friends/family over the next month or so, we may not pick anyone else. I’m staying more stress-free this way.
Post # 46
I picked out my wedding party right after we got engaged, but our engagement is only 14 months total and it was easy to choose. My sister as Maid/Matron of Honor, my fiance’s brothers as his best man and groomsman and a mutual friend of ours as my bridesmaid. We’re so far not having any more trouble than we already anticipated with my sister not having much free time. We planned ahead for that, though, and it’s working out.
I wouldn’t plan two years in advance, but I think if you have a small party, it’s easier to plan earlier than if your party is really big. And I think a lot of it depends on the wedding. A bigger wedding means more expenses for everyone and that leads to tension.