Post # 1
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Newbee
Hello! I am having a hard time deciding if I should gift my bridesmaids dressing robes or pajamas. I am plannng on having some “getting ready” photos. I feel that pj’s are more practical, but robes are a bit more classic. I found a style for eah type that I really love, but I can’t decide. What do you think? I put the links to both items in the post! Thank you!
https://www.etsy.com/listing/611104253/bridal-bridesmaid-pjs-bridesmaid-gift
https://www.etsy.com/listing/539646744/lace-bridal-robe-bridesmaid-robes-robe
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
I would probably get more wear out of PJs vs robes, so thats what I voted for.
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
Are all of your bridesmaids comfortable being photographed in shorty PJs or a short robe?
Keep in mind that anything you “gift” them for your own purposes, such as these PJs/robes or matching earrings, etc. are for your benefit and not necessarily for theirs, ie not really gifts.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
Both are great. PJs are definately a cute option. I had BMs of different sizes so to make it easy I just got us all silk robes and they loved them. The mother of my flower girl said she likes to lounge around the house in them. The key is to get something they are likely to use again so I made sure not to get anything wedding related on them just a nice Kimono style robe that they can use while getting ready after a shower etc.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
For pictures, I would take the robe. I wouldn’t really want pictures of myself in pajamas. Sorry.
However, I would end up using the pajamas more than a robe, and I definitely wouldn’t use the robe later if there was embroidery on it (like “bridesmaid” or the date or my name).
Not sure if that’s very helpful, but I voted for the robe just because of pictures.
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
I would feel really exposed and naked in both of those options and would not feel comfortable being photographed. The PJs in particular are way too skimpy on bottom for my comfort level.
The robes are a little more modest than the PJs due to the longer length, but if any of your bridesmaids are busty they may be really self conscious and at risk for wardrobe malfunctions. I’ve been the bridesmaid before whose bust was too large for the robe and have had to just wear the robe tied as tight as possible over my clothes for photos, and that was actually pretty embarassing.
As a potential bridesmaid, any time I’ve been given a robe or PJs as a “gift”, it’s pretty much gone straight to the Goodwill donation bin. It’s never a style I would wear, rarely fits well, etc. And I already have 2 nice robes (summer and winter weight) and several pair of nice pajamas that I find comfortable.
Granted, I am not a fan of matching robes for getting-ready shits. Bridesmaids are your friends, not your photo props.
Post # 8
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Blushing bee
If you do the robes, you might want to stop by Old Navy or Target and get everyone some grey shorts and white cami (or something like that), it will make everyone feel more comfortable I bet! My sister was in a wedding and didn’t think to bring anything to wear underneath, and kept feeling like she was hanging out a little in her robe 🙂
Post # 9
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Busy bee
My boobs always fall out of those silly robes. I would go for the PJs.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
sweetsolitude : i did PJs, since it seemed like there’s so much robe-fatigue. plus, they were much more practical in the end when it came to getting ready (no long sleeves to get in the way of putting on makeup, not worried about gaping tops/ flashing anyone when bending over). basically, with robes you’re still wearing actualy clothes underneath (like a cami and shorts); PJs you could literally just wear the PJs. In the end, they were cute.
Yes – robes are a bit more classic and make for slightly cuter pictures, sigh. Sometimes I wish we had gotten robes (turns out that none of my bridesmaids had ever gotten a bridesmaid robe, so they would have been psyched), but pragmatically, PJs were definitely the way to go.
BONUS was that late in the night during the dance party, the bridesmaids changed out of their dresses and back into their PJs! they all had heavily beaded gowns, and I told them it was totally fine for them to change – they definitely could not have done that in a robe!
Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
Since they’re the ones who have to wear them, you should probably ask the bridesmaids what they prefer.
Post # 12
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Newbee
beethree : Yes! I definitely made sure of that. We all agreed the “getting ready” coverage will be limited, probably just a photo with everyone after hair and makeup is done hahah I can definitely see not everyone would consider pj’s/robes, matching earrings, etc. a true gift, especially if a bride was really forcing the “getting ready” photos, and had not checked with their bridesmaids about how they feel… but I do think my bridesmaids will like these PJs as a gift, something I can see them using again!
Post # 13
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Newbee
Horseradish : I had thought of this! I want to keep something a surprise though… maybe I can just ask them if they prefer robes or pjs, and then not tell them which I end up getting. I think they probably already know something is coming for the “getting ready” part of the day. Thanks!
Post # 14
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Newbee
misslucy : That sounds awful! I would never do the pj’s or robes if my bridesmaids were not comfortable! I personally wouldn’t want my picture taken before my hair or makeup was done for someone’s wedding. I already checked with them about the “getting ready” part of the day, and they are all on board hahah I also feel confident my bridesmaids would like the style of the items I’m leaning toward. Agreed, no one should feel like a prop, and you cant call it a gift if it’s sole purpose is for photos… I am thinking the pj’s will get more use later on.
Post # 15
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Busy bee
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0792WJY6P/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o03_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
i ordered us these. they are super soft and i feel like they will be comfy to hang in them for the day
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