(Closed) Bridesmaid said she had "bad news" …

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

You can fly at 7 month unless you are high risk for pre-term labor. You can generally fly until 36 weeks depending on OB recommendation.

I was in a wedding at 7 months. It wasn’t ideal, but it wasn’t that bad either. I did have to order a maternity dress though.

Post # 4
3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I haven’t been in that situation but I’m sorry to hear how her otherwise happy news might not be good news for your wedding. Totally understandable to feel sad. Hopefully it works our for her to be able to make it!

Post # 5
1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

That stinks ๐Ÿ™ most airlines aren’t ok with 7 month (or more) pregnant women. However, a friend of mine flew from NY to Florida when she was 7.5 months pregnant and the airline jusg made her sign a waiver, she was fine. I personally wouldnt risk it. I’m not going to be able to attend a good friends destination wedding because its right around my due date :(. You just have to be supportive and understanding, which it seems you already are. Maybe you can just do a special dinner or something with the couple after your wedding?

Post # 8
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@OhBeeHive84:  7 months? Not so, my friend.

In fact, Southwest lets you fly until 38 weeks:

Advice to Pregnant Passengers

While air travel does not usually cause problems during pregnancy unless delivery is expected within 14 days or less, in some cases, traveling by air has been known to cause complications or premature labor. Female Customers at any stage of pregnancy should consult with their physicians prior to air travel. Southwest Airlines recommends against air travel beginning at the 38th week of pregnancy. Depending on their physical condition, strength, and agility, pregnant women may, in some cases, be asked not to sit in the emergency exit row.

American Airlines: 36 weeks

Continental: beyond the 7th month (so 36 weeks)

Delta: no restictions; ask that you consult your doctor

JetBlue: requires letter form doctor if flying within 7 days of due date (39 weeks)

Spirit: requires letter from doctor if flying 36 weeks of later

United: requires letter from doctor if flying 36 weeks of later

Virgin: requires letter form doctor if flying within 7 days of due date (39 weeks)

Post # 9
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I received a similar excited but tearful phone call from one of my good friends about seven months before our wedding. Like you, we were so excited for them, but just a little bit sad that she wouldn’t be able to make it to our big day since she would’ve had to fly across the country.

After quite a few phone calls and reminding her to stop apologizing for her super exciting news, lol, we got it set up so that she could watch the wedding over Skype! ๐Ÿ™‚ We made sure that my phone was charged up, and so was hers in Texas, and once the ceremony started, a friend of ours relayed the entire ceremony over Skype for her. So while we missed her, she still gets to talk about our wedding with me as if she were actually there upfront with us ๐Ÿ™‚ Maybe you guys can line something up like that?

Post # 10
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You absolutely do not need a waiver to fly at 7 months.  BUT… its up to her. If she’s not comfortable flying, thats the end of the story. Totally understand being bummed, but the day goes by so fast… it wont be bothering you on your wedding day, I promise, and the next day you get to start being super excited about your good friend having a baby and forget all about the bridesmaid thing.

Post # 11
580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

She will probably need a maternity dress, I’m 5 months and unless the dress was super roomy or stretchy, I don’t think I’d fit. 

I don’t think there should be any restrictions on flying unless she’s at high-risk for preterm labor, but I’d be apprehensive about being far away from home if it were me. 

Post # 13
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I would totally fly at 7 months! Flying does NOT induce labour or any such thing, and the chances of going into labour that soon is not that high. It could depend on her pregnancy..when I was preggo with my son I felt like a huge blob of shit for the last half lol  but with my daughter I was cleaning and being a super woman right up until I had her.  Leave it up to her, she would most likely need a new dress, and as pps said she will be allowed to fly by the airlines.


If she couldnt make it, would you replace her?  What if for now she planned on it, then wait and see when the day gets closer



Post # 15
1314 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012


@LedeLady:  You already have good advice from the other bees, but I just want to chime in and say it is really refreshing to see that you believe if the wedding party is uneven it’s not a big deal. I can’t count how many times a bride has lamented about one of her BM’s ruining the eveness of the party. To me, replacing  a bridesmaid means she was never significan to your wedding, only your pictures. With your wonderful attitude, I’m sure things will work out just peachy ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 16
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I think she should talk to her DR. and see what Dr. says about her flying. If dr. says it’s ok, then order her a new dress and she and her hubby can still be in the wedding:) COngrats to them!!

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