- 2 weeks ago
I recently got engaged and despite trying to enjoy the exciting time, am crippled by anxiety about choosing my bridal party (stupid, I know). I hate hurting people’s feelings. So far, there are 6 bridesmaids who are no-brainers (this includes my MOH), but there are 4 other friends I am considering. I know it’s odd to ask the internet for opinions (who don’t even know my relationship to these people), but I’d love an outsider perspective on my situation. For context, I am 2.5 years out of school and one of the first of my friends to get married.
<strong class=”_12FoOEddL7j_RgMQN0SNeU”>Friend A: A sorority sister who was my first friend in the sorority, and one of my first friends in college. We were inseperable the first two years, then didn’t see each other as often (I started a Master’s program early and she and I both got into serious relationships). We’ve visited each other across the state, text every so often, but I haven’t seen her since graduation. Time, proximity, and careers are to blame, though. She hasn’t hung out with my Fiance and I much as a couple, and I actually have never met her Boyfriend or Best Friend (they started dating a year before we graduated). Caveat – I feel like we’ve gotten closer this past year than we were our last year in college. I think she’d genuinely be surprised (albeit disappointed) if she wasn’t chosen as a bridesmaid, because I’m sure she’d have me as one in her wedding.
<strong class=”_12FoOEddL7j_RgMQN0SNeU”>Friend B: Another friend from college. She is also my [biological] sister’s sorority “big sister”. She is the type who disappears into her own little world for some time but if you reach out she is very loving, bubbly, and receptive. She loves my fiance AND I, and gets along great with anyone. She recently moved across the country for work and came to spend a weekend visiting us. I can’t imagine my big day without her laughter and positivity, but she also isn’t the most responsive or reliable person.
<strong class=”_12FoOEddL7j_RgMQN0SNeU”>Friend C: My roommate from my first year in the real world post-grad. She and I got real close, real fast, know almost everything about each other, and speak semi-regularly. She’s my “wild” friend …lol. We’d do random homegoods outings together, crafting projects, cookie decorating, tv and wine nights… she was with me through some very trying times in my relationship (when my fiance and I were starting long-distance for two years) and is good friends with him, too.
<strong class=”_12FoOEddL7j_RgMQN0SNeU”>Friend D: We met in college, but went to different high schools in the same hometown. She was also in my sorority, but a year older than me and in my Master’s program. We’re very like-minded people and always enjoyed each others company in college, but actually got closer post-grad when we were both living in Washington DC for 2 years. We hung out a lot on weekends, are very similar people, and just took a girls trip – the two of us – to Spain together in September! We chat as often as Friend C and I do, and I feel like she’s a big sister to me. I don’t know if she’d gel as well with the other bridesmaids as B or C would.
All of these girls would get along fine with the other bridesmaids (some even know them), so not worried about that. Part of me is wondering if I should just keep the original 6 and invite A, B, C, and D to the bachelorette, or add 1-2 extras into the mix.
Also – Friend B and Friend D are close and could keep each other “company” at the wedding.