Bridesmaid Shoe Issue (with poll)

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What should I do?
    Let it go - no one will see them : (73 votes)
    72 %
    Tell her to find nude or silver shoes : (28 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 31
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    2350 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I had a similar issue but soon realised I’d rather my bridesmaids be comfortable, able to walk and happy rather than in the colour I wanted 

    Post # 32
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    2332 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    All of my bridesmaids wore whatever shoe they were comfortable with. One of them wore a boot because she broke her foot a week before the wedding.

    Pretty much all of them wore black shoes. Some high, some low, some flats…… can you tell?

    Their shoes shouldn’t be a big deal specially if they are wearing long gowns. I’d let it go. 

    And if they are taller than you, who cares? Mine were pretty much all taller than me because I wore flats. I don’t think their height will take away from you at all. 

    Post # 33
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    6192 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    With a long dress, no one will see their shoes, even with a pale dress. Let it go and let her wear the black shoes.

    Post # 34
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    8019 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I do feel for you that black  shoes with a lavender dress is not going to look good. But , like everyone  says , they probably won’t show . If it were me, I’d  ask her to wear  any pale coloured shoe she already owns in preference to the black 
     

    I dont think you  should dictate heel height  though, that’s  a step too far. 

    Post # 35
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    216 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    From what i have seen shoes are a wildcard these days with BM’s. You have erred on the side of accommodating by simply asking for one of TWO colors and any style. She could go online and order one of probably 27 different shoes in those colors for $20. I know this, because i have just ordered 6 different styled shoes as options for my bridesmaids (im too scared to say go get your own) and 2 of those options were nude and on clearance for 19.99. That is well within the realm of reasonable expectations of anyone in a bridal party.

    Post # 36
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    2855 posts
    Sugar bee

    I agree you should let it go (as you’ve said you would) It’s HIGHLY unlikely anyone is going to see them. Even if they do show up in a photo and you don’t like it, chances are it would be a super easy photoshop fix. 

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