Post # 1
I told my bridesmaids to buy any kind of black satin type shoe they wanted. Well, one of my bridesmaids emailed me a picture of the shoe she purchased and it is the exact same shoe as the ones I am wearing. Mine are purple, hers are black.
I’m not sure how I feel about this. I don’t love the fact that they are the same shoe only a different color. Would you care if one of your bridemaids had the same shoe?
Am I nutso for caring??
Post # 3
well since they are different colors and i am assuming u will be wearing a long dress. I wouldn’t care so much. No one is really gonna look at the bm shoes…if u are concerned about that, or u want ur own shoes ;)…i dont think its such a big deal, except the pictures,,,,but everyone will look at your face, hair and the dress of course so the shoes dont really matter ….
Post # 4
I agree with KIKI25. You shouldn’t worry about it. Believe me no one will be looking at her shoes and comparing them against yours. In addition, your guests will be focused more on the total package (dress, glow, smile) than they will be on your shoes.
Post # 5
the logical side of me says no one will even notice that she has the same shoes. but the princess side of me says that I want everything on the wedding day to be extra special and someone else having the same shoes does not = extra special. So I totally understand where you are coming from. In the end I would probably just let it go.
Post # 6
does she know? i think if i was a Bridesmaid or Best Man and found out i chose the same shoes as the bride, i would look for new shoes!
you could be nice about it and say something like this:
“hey nice shoes, i have the exact same ones that i got for the wedding! would it be crazy to ask you to find any pair but those? if you don’t want to, then that’s cool too”
Post # 7
One of my bridesmaids is wearing the exact shoe as me, down to the color (white).
It bothered me a bit at first, but then I got over it. First, it really doesn’t matter especially because no one will even be able to see my shoes (long dress). Second, the shoes were a great price and they are really, really comfortable, especially for heels. She really wanted them because she knew she’d wear them over and over because of how cute and comfortable they are!
So I let it go! We will be cute and matching. And we both have a fantastic pair of shoes that can be re-worn again and again!
Post # 8
I think considering they are different colors it really doesn’t matter. And like PP said people really don’t see your shoes. If i was a Bridesmaid or Best Man I would think you were a bit of a zilla if you asked me to return my shoes. Shoes are not important in the grand scheme of a wedding.
Post # 9
Thanks for the input. I had a feeling I was being a zilla. I just emailed her back and told her they look great. Similar to mine but said I don’t mind if she doesn’t.