Post # 1
So I have 6 bridesmaids. I have chosen 3 bridesmaids dresses and 2 bridesmaids each will wear 1 of these dresses. They are all plum colored, all chiffon, and the same length (about to the knee). The only difference is the neckline. One dress is strapless, one has a keyhole front with beaded straps, and the other is a one shoulder dress.
Its worked out really well so far because each of them loves their dress, and told me it is re-wearable.
Now, here is my question. Do you think it would look too mismatched if I told them to pick a black shoe that they like, or would it be better to chose one black heel for all of them since the dresses are different? (One Bridesmaid or Best Man said she would like to wear flats, but I’m already uneasy about mixing flats and heels…) Part of me is leaning toward picking out a simple, black heel for all of them but I really want them to be comfortable with what they are wearing on our wedding day as well.
The dresses aren’t so different that they look uncoordinated, they are all from DB’s and the color matches exactly.
Your opinions/input/experience is very much appreciated!!! 🙂
Post # 3
@literary_chic: I don’t think anyone will be paying much attention to their shoes.
Post # 4
My girls wore long dresses, but I asked them to wear a pair of black heels. Something they already had, they were broken in and the girls knew if they could walk in them! 2 of the 4 brought flats to change into for the reception.
If I were the Bridesmaid or Best Man, I’d want to wear something I already have.
Post # 5
Just have them wear whatever shoe, it really doesn’t matter.
Post # 6
My girls decided on a color and are wearing shoes they already own. They wanted silver and I think some are doing flats and some are wearing heels.
Post # 7
@literary_chic: I think the focus will be so much on you (and DH!), no one will be paying special attention to their shoes:)
Post # 8
I put my bridesmaids in the same dress, same color and same shoes. I thought I was going to let them pick their own, but after looking at numerous pictures, I decided I wanted a more cohesive look! I went for nude patent heels, totally rewearable, and they made their legs go on forever! We went on a shopping trip to find a pair of shoes that they both found comfy and were reasonably priced.
Post # 9
We picked out a specific shoe for the ladies and it looked great. But then again I wanted champagne colored shoes so that is a bit tricker to find.
If you are going for black I would say just give them a few specifics; heels/no heels, open toe/close toe, patent leather/non-shiny etc. All ladies should have a black shoe that would work.
Post # 10
I personally prefer a matching shoe, especially with mismatched dresses. My girls are wearing shoes from DB in bright purple and mismatched (but same fabric/designer) dresses.
Post # 11
My thought is that they’re only going to wear them for the ceremony and pics (I’m assuming they’ll dance barefoot, since that’s what girls seem to do when they dance–I’m guilty, too!)
So I think it would be awesome to pick the shoes, and surprise them with flip flops on their chairs at the reception!
Post # 12
@BrandNewBride: AWW I love the flip flop reception idea!!!
Post # 13
Do not mandate a specific shoe unless you plan on buying it. I think this is over the top. Simply saying “a black heel” will be cohesive and allow people to save money.
Post # 14
My guidelines were black and satin! I wanted them to wear a shoe they were comfortable in, but hated the thought of one wearing patent leather, one in suede, one in satin, etc. 3 out of the 6 wanted to kill me because apparently finding black satin mid-summer is a pain in the butt, but they’re my best friends and knew it was what I wanted so they made it happen! Bless their hearts 🙂 One of my favorite shots from the day is their adorable black satin shoes lined up outside of the bridal room.