Post # 1
What is everyone doing about bridesmaid shoes? I really want everyone to wear silver strappy heels, but I feel really bad about asking my girls to pay over $100 for a dress and then buy $50 silver sandals.
What did y’all do? I was thinking of asking everyone’s shoe size and buying the shoes for them as part of my bridesmaid gifts to them.
PS – here are the shoes I like:
Post # 3
If you wanted to buy the shoes as a gift, I think that would be a nice gesture.
Otherwise, you could give them some options for shoes you think would look nice with the dresses, or you could indicate the color/style you want them to wear. When I’ve been a bridesmaid before, that’s what my friends have done (said “Wear whatever silver shoe you’ll be comfortable in, as long as it isn’t a sneaker or something like that”), and I had no problem staying within their guidelines.
Post # 4
I’m letting my girls wear whatever gold heels they like. I have wide feet and a high arch, so I understand that a lot of people don’t fit into standard shoe sizes. I want them to be comfortable, and it’s such a waste of money to buy shoes you’re dying to take off as soon as you get to the reception. Even if you offer to buy them, it’s still not worth the potential pain of wearing shoes someone else chose.
Post # 5
Personally, from being a bridesmaid before, I didn’t mind paying for shoes. Honestly, I am super picky about shoes, so I wouldn’t really want the bride to buy those for me.
It’s a really sweet geasture, but In My Humble Opinion, I think you should let them pick their own shoes.
Post # 6
Thanks y’all – I’m so appreciating all of your opinions! Looks like I will probably head toward giving them a general idea of what I was thinking and maybe send them some examples. Maybe I’ll offer to pay for their hair/makeup and give them jewelry as their Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts.
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Post # 8
My BMs wore short dresses and I don’t care for the mismatched, “wear whatever you want in this color” shoe look. We ended up buying my girls shoes (they came out to $17 each due to BOGO) but I wouldn’t have felt bad asking them to buy them either as the dress they got wasn’t too expensive.
Post # 9
Thanks girls! Loving all your comments! I went shopping yesterday with my Maid/Matron of Honor to finalize our dress pick, and she found a pair of silver sandals at David’s Bridal and fell in love. She said she didn’t care if I picked them for the wedding, she was buying them anyway, haha!
I ended up adding them to my David’s “registry” – I figured you were @melisslp that they could definitely wear those again with a fun dress, or even jeans and a dressy top.
My dresses only came out to be $129 each and I know a lot of people ask their girls to buy much more expensive dresses than that. I figured it was worth it for a fun shoe shot to have them in the same thing, especially since I think they go so well with my shoes:
Yay for having that figured out!