(Closed) Bridesmaid sick, help!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wouldn’t replace her. 

If she’s there, great.  If she can’t make it, tell her you’re thinking of her.  And if she doesn’t make it, be sure to give her the bouquet she would have had.  It’ll make you look like a nice friend, who thought of her.  Not the friend who thought about kicking her out since she was sick.

Post # 4
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

Agreed. If you replace her, it kinds of sends the message that she (and the stand-in) are mannequins filling out a dress for the sake of the pictures.

That said, I really do hope she feels better, for her own sake and for your peace of mind. I’m sure she was really looking forward to it, and this really sucks for both of you.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

NO DO NOT REPLACE HER!!!!  do you really want a stand in?!?  your poor friend 🙁  and honestly nobody cares if the sides are uneven, it does not matter.  I had 3 bridesmaids and husband only had a best man 🙂  It was great, we only wanted those who were very close to us standing up with us

Post # 6
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Definitely do not replace her! I’m sure the poor girl feels awful, and for two reasons – the fact that she is super sick, and that she might miss the wedding! And I know it’s hard because it’s your wedding day and it must be super disappointing to think she may not be there, but I don’t think it would be very considerate to your friend to replace her because she is ill and vomiting. And I would try really hard to be supportive and insist that she don’t force herself to attend if she is too sick just because she feels bad. The last think you want is a bridesmaid running away to throw up during your vows! None of your guests are going to care whether or not the bridal party is even.

Post # 7
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611 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Your bridesmaids are people, not props. Replacing her just so you have a warm body in the right dress would be an awful thing to do.

Post # 9
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907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Don’t replace her and if she can’t make it send her flowers, with a get well card. Let her know she will be missed. She probably feels bad.

Post # 10
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Bichon Frise:  Well I hope everything works out in the end and that you have a great day tomorrow! Do you have a lot of things to get done today? If you can I’d try to take some time to just relax, go to lunch with your soon to be husband or read a book or watch some mindless TV to get your mind off the stress.  My last minute issues all waited until the wedding day to pop up, so I hope you’re just getting yours out of the way in advance and everything goes smoothly tomorrow!

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