(Closed) Bridesmaid sister

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I feel your pain.  I let my sister/MOH pick her own dress since she’s not matching the other girls (light blue, rather than royal), but I don’t like what she picked very much.  It’s not bad, I just think she could find something way more flattering.  But I don’t know whether it’s worth making an issue.

If she was totally dragging her feet like your sister, I would approach her and gently say “Hey, I realize you’re having a hard time.  It’s my wedding, so why don’t I take the pressure off and just pick something for you.  I’m the one looking at the pictures for the rest of my life.”

Hmm. That’s not bad, maybe I’ll try that.  Emphasis on approaching GENTLY since she can get quite the temper.  Good luck!

Post # 4
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1501 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This would be why I picked the dresses, my mom paid for them. I was going to pay for them but my mom wanted to so I let her.

I know that my Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t love the dress, but I wanted them to match and this will look the best on all of them.

And if they never wear it again I don’t care as it wasn’t there money spent on it!

Post # 5
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3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Yea, after a certain point in time, I would make an executive decision and say this is what you’re wearing. Then again, your wedding is not until 2012, so she has time to look around and really find something she loves. This is going to happen if you give her an option. If not, it will be done.

Post # 6
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1559 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

This is exactly why I *DIDN’T* do this. My Maid/Matron of Honor was very much a fan of doing the mis-matched dresses (she plans to do this for her own wedding), but I know for a fact that had I done that, I would have run into things like: 

1. Girls picking the cheapest dress they can find just because it’s cheap. 

2. My sister having *completely* different taste than me

3. Dealing with the headache of colors possibly not matching *at all* 

I personally compromised and picked a designer, fabric, color, and length, and then let the girls pick their style within those perimeters. 

It was much, much easier than letting them have full control. 

Post # 7
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1096 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Going through the same thing with my sister and her shoes. I wanted everyone in fuchsia shoes, even the flower girls have them. Not my sister. Nope I’m wearing silver. Um no you’re not. Anything I send her she doesn’t love. I thought I was being nice by saying they could get any shoes they wanted in that color but I guess it’d have been easier if I said ok this is what you’re getting.

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