Post # 1
I’m not sure if any of you have had a similar situation. I will try to be short…
I have 6 bridesmaids and no maid of honour. In a perfect world, I would of loved to have 8, but it came down to numbers and 8 was just too many. The two ladies that are not in my wedding party understand and are ok with it even though I am very close with them. One of them is doing a reading during ther ceremony and both will be partisipating in all day of activities.
Bridemaids speech, I don’t know who to choose. 5 of my 6 bridesmaids are new friend from the last 8 years. The 6th is my cousin who lives in the States. My issue is that none of my bridesmaids know me from the years 12-25 (formative years) and I feel like that is so much of who I am, especially as I am not from Toronto, but a small town in Manitoba. The two people who do know those years are the ladies who are not in my bridal party (bridemaid picking is SO hard).
Is it rude to ask a non bridesmaid to do the speech with a bridesmaid? Is it rude to the bridesmaids? Is it rude to the friend who is not a bridesmaid? Is it better to choose my long distance cousin and have her get ideas from the bridesmaids and past friends? The problem is that all my friends know me from a different point of my life…
I am completely open to suggestions.
Post # 2
Making84: Can one of those girls be your Emcee and give a speech that way? Then have one of your BMs give the bridesmaid speech? I think it would be weird and a bit of a slap in the face to the non-bm to say hey, I realize I didn’t pick you as a Bridesmaid or Best Man but you know me better than these girls, can you give the Bridesmaid or Best Man speech?
If it was me, I’d be pissed/offended/hurt to be honest.
Post # 3
Making84: I say 8 years is not “new” and they will still know you just as well. Have you asked if anyone would be interested in doing instead of assigning to someone?
Post # 4
MsGinkgo: Yeah, that’s what I was thinking… Our MC is a mutual friend who introduced my Fiance and I, so that spot is already filled.
Barely_Blush: I haven’t asked yet. I really jumped at the choosing bridesmaids part without thinking it through (in excitement). I was going to wait until about 2-3 months out to ask. So far two of the girls have said they do not like public speaking and one will have a 3 month old at that time (first born), so I do not wait to add to her stress.
Post # 5
Making84: I think your overthinking it a little. What about about asking all 8 to do like a quick “my favorite memory with Making84 is” and a quick congrats. if they would not like to particapate they are free not too. And you would get to include the 2 other girls.
We went to a friends wedding and she did this with her 12! girls because she couldnt pick a Maid/Matron of Honor and 8 were her sisters. it actually turned out so adorable.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Why not ask which Bridesmaid or Best Man is most comfortable doing the speech? A lot of people aren’t too keen on public speaking anyway.
Post # 8
I wouldnt ask them to do a speech, i would leave that to a Bridesmaid or Best Man. But what i am doing with my BM’s is giving them 3ish minutes for speech. So they can do what they please with it, let whoever take the spot like.