Post # 1
My wedding is in 7 weeks. OMG! My Maid/Matron of Honor got her dress 6 months ago…and my other Bridesmaid or Best Man got hers about 2 months ago. I went with them both to help pick the best dress. They all are wearing long black dresses, they pick the style. Simple, right?
Um, no. My one Bridesmaid or Best Man still has yet to go dress hunting with me or even alone. This delay started 6 months ago when Maid/Matron of Honor got her dress and “bad” Bridesmaid or Best Man said she wanted to wait to try and lose some weight. This was fine with me and we waited. I have made 4 separate “dress hunting dates” with her over the last 2 months. Each time she has canceled or forgot so we obviously have not gone. We actually had plans for tonight and she just informed me that she has errands to run after work because she is traveling to Va for another wedding. Mind you, she has picked all these “dress dates” herself based on her schedule and broken each one.
I just reminded her that it’s 7 weeks and she’s panicing now. Um, yeah! It’s already the second week of September and November is right around the corner! I’m dreading the trip To David’s Bridal since they “scold” you for coming in too close to the date….Grrrr! Looks like I will have to kidnap her at gun point to get her ass in a dress!
Anyone else having issues with BMs??
Post # 3
Mine didn’t find her dress in her size when she wanted to order it. I was getting a bit miffed before I realized that she was panicking and was spending a lot of time looking for her dress. Silly me, I thought she was slacking off. I told her to wear any gray dress she finds. She ended up finding her dress in her color. Don’t panic, it will all work out.
Post # 4
Here’s what Davids Bridal told me: If they have the dress in their main distribution center, they can have it shipped to your store within a few weeks. But if they have to order it from their factory, it COULD take 3 months, because they send them from the factory in China to the distribution center in the U.S. and then they have to check them for quality control before shipping them to individual stores. If there’s issues with the colors or sizing being a little off, they have to send them back and reorder. That’s why it can potentially take a full 3 months.
One of my BM’s did this… DB said not to cut it too close because of the reason above, but I realized 10 weeks out that she didn’t have her dress yet. She said she didn’t have the money for it, so I finally had to go put it on my credit card. DB promised they could get it by 2 days before the wedding, which was SO scary, bc I knew it would need to be altered and the wedding is Out of Town.
Well, fast forward a bit… The dress ended up arriving 5 weeks early, BUT the Bridesmaid or Best Man gained weight and the size we ordered based on her initial measurements won’t zip up. We definitely don’t have time to order a new one now. Ughhhh.
Post # 5
YOu might need to go the department store route with her, there are usually some great options in the evening wear/formal wear departments. That might take some of the stress away, knowing she could find something off the rack.
Post # 6
I had this problem with my cousin/BM. She’s SUPER lazy. She actually waited until 5 weeks before to order her dress – it came in 1 week before the wedding!
She put in a rush order at Alfred Angelo which cost her an extra $90.
So it depends on where the dresses are coming from, but that’s always an option.
Post # 7
@TheFutureMrsLamkin: BM’s and MOH’s make me so upset! Why put someone through this 7 weeks before their wedding! People are just so inconsiderate!
I’m not getting married until 2012 but I had 1 dress search outing (with free lunch & wine afterwards) 2 weeks ago and all my girls showed up except for 1. And she had the nerve to tell me “Well all the other get togethers are going to have to be based off my schedule since I’m the only one who doesn’t have a set work schedule.” What!?!?!?
Post # 9
@seven12: Oh no! That sounds so stressful for both you and the bridesmaid! I’m so sorry that this is your experience!
Post # 10
One of my girls has ordered from Davids. Another is supposed to order by the end of the month, and the last three girls are all looking for used dresses, because they have a super small income. The wedding is 13 weeks away on Saturday. I’m not too terribly worried… If they don’t have a dress, they don’t walk down the aisle.
Post # 11
Both my sisters and one of my other BM’s have not gotten their dresses either and we are date twins so trust me I know what you are going through.
Post # 12
Not to put unnecessary worry/stress into your head, but my cousin avoided me for MONTHS, and then finally told me she was pregnant and didnt feel comfortable buying a dress she wouldnt know “for sure” if she’d be able to wear. Mind you the dress I chose was $80 and secondly, she would have given birth MONTHS before our wedding and she’s never been bigger than a Size 4. **MAJOR EYEROLL**
Long story short, I cut ties with her and we no longer talk. Too much work to ask someone to be apart of your wedding, I dont need to be chasing a grown ass woman who is just making things more difficult. I think you need to give her a date of when she needs to HAVE HER DRESS IN HAND.
Best of Luck! And I hope the next few weeks are great leading up to your big day!
Post # 13
I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a friend’s wedding and I put off buying the dress for a long time. I had no idea it would take so long for the dress to come in! Maybe your Bridesmaid or Best Man is the same way–just doesn’t realize the need for a rush.
I also figured I could just buy a dress off-the-rack, since regular dress shopping comes so easy for me.
Recommend that you just remind her that it takes a while for dresses to come in. Are you insisting that she buy from David’s Bridal? A simple black dress seems like it would be easy to come by. Do you have to go with her? Maybe she feels more comfortable shopping alone.
Post # 14
Get her in that store asap. Im so sorry!! I would be panicing but thats just me. Im sure everything will work out. Honestly you guys could find something in the store that she could take home that day.. that is always an option. Also if they are able to pick their own dresses anyways, then you can shop at other places as well as long as they meet your requirements long and black. so maybe you can avoid the ording drama if you do it that way.
Post # 15
@CMSnails: Thanks… I’m sure it will be okay. We’ll put a corset on her or duct tape her into it if we have to!
Post # 16
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I had this problem… and I realized she didn’t want to be in my wedding. It was actually a good thing- I didn’t ask someone else, but a friend asked me. It’s a much happier bridal party now.