(Closed) Bridesmaid still not paying for the dress….

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3368 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It sounds like she doesn’t exactly want to be a bridesmaid. It might be best just to talk to her. 

However, I would take her attitude as a clue that your wedding isn’t one of her priorities and maybe she just doesn’t want to be in your bridal party as badly as you want her to be? Sorry that you’re dealing with this hon. 🙁


Post # 5
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@PacificMrs:  I think she said the bridesmaid already has the dress, and she had paid for it for her upfront expecting to be paid back…

I would not be happy in this situation given that she initially told you that she would pay for it.

I say if she refuses to pay for the dress, refuse to pay for her hair and makeup, even steven! If she doesn’t like that idea, pay for the dress in installments as your other friend mentioned, or don’t be a bridesmaid!

Post # 6
11270 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@kookooklock:  obviously this wedding or bm dress is not one of her priorities.

Post # 8
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

She sounds like she is very involved and excited for the wedding. I think you need to just let it go. If she pays for it, great, but if not, oh well.

It’s not worth ruining a friendship over, and it’s obvious she has financial issues, but is still contributing to your wedding in effort and enthusiasm. So while I’d be frustrated, I’d recommend just trying to forget about it.

Post # 9
1134 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

wow i think your friend need to leave this guy….i know thats not what this is about tho….

Def keep reminding her. its such a shame when people “forget” to pay you back.

Post # 10
2598 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@kookooklock:  She’s not going to pay you so at this point, I’d let it go.  Unless you’re ready to  sever the friendship and boot her out of the wedding you’ll just be buying yourself a lot of drama if you pursue it and she still won’t pay you.

Look at it this way – its an expensive dress bought for the sole purpose of being in your wedding so…its really not unreasonable for you to pay for it.  I realize that wasn’t the understanding to begin with but maybe looking at it this way will make it less aggravating? 

Maybe she’s embarrassed but honestly, she doesn’t sound very together.  I mean, she supports a guy who lays around, spends 1K a month on his weed habit and she wants to bring a kid into this mess?  Yeah, this is a person with not great judgement here. 

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