- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Had my shower over the weekend. Was a good day, my 4 bridesmaids put on a great day for me.
Later that night however, (we did my shower on a Saturday), my girls and friends and I hung around to continue the festivities, my FI and the husbands showed up and we all partied in celebration for us.
Here’s where it went really wrong. My step-sister who is one of my 4 bridesmaids, ended up getting seriously drunk. Uncomfortably drunk. Falling down, slurring, just really bad. She gets along with all my friends, but she is single, so she was there ‘alone’. We were already starting to flip the tone and start worrying about her, we were trying to cut her off and give her water and put her to bed but she was refusing. She had previously told us she planned on staying over which was fine. So then out of nowhere, I happened to look over from the other room (open concept) and see her sneaking out the front door with her bags! I ran after her to try and catch her and by the time I was running down the driveway she had jumped in her car and sped off down the street. It was about 1 am.
Panic. I’m have chills as I’m writing this just remembering my sheer helpnesses and terror. So then the entire party erupted in chaos. We didn’t know what to do. We started to chase her down and then lost her. We called 911 to report a drunk driver. I was terrified for her safety and everyone else’s on the road! And then we hurredly threw all my shower gifts into our cars and me and my sister and my FI (we were all stone cold sober now) drove back to our place, dropped off our seperate cars and then went in one car to her (my stepsister’s) house just to see at least if her car was there and she made it home safely. It wasn’t. We left not knowing if she was ok or where she was. All our other friends were texting us until 5 in the morning trying to find out if she was ok. It was a horrible end to the night and to my shower day.
Then she texts me the next morning just saying she’s fine and sorry to worry me. That’s it. I had left her a scared message the night before when she first peeled off so I think she must have been responding to that. So I left her a message back telling her how badly she scared us and asking her what she was thinking driving that drunk???!!!!
We went the whole day after with no response from her. Nothing. We spent the day after my shower, exhausted and still so rattled. My FI and should have been joyously looking at our gifts and cards and instead we felt drained and totally hijacked. It was ruined. And yet she still has not ackowledged it at all. That almost bothers me more now. She put us through hell.
My wedding is in 47 days. How am I supposed to just pretend that this didn’t happen? It feels weird now, like I can’t look at her the same. She really did a number on herself in the eyes of my friends too. And if she’s not responding now…I don’t know how to settle how upset I am about it without making it explode into something that will make it worse.
The total irony is that I was so worried about my Mom before my shower because she’s an alcoholic and I didn’t know how she would behave – and she did perfect! She had great day! I was so happy and relieved! And then out of nowhere my step-sister goes and does that.