Post # 1
Help, Im a brides maid in a friends wedding and im not sure if there is a protocal for what i should spend on gifts for the bridal shower and the wedding gift.
we( all the BM) had paid for our own dresses and shoes, the MOG is paying for our hair and makeup the day of, Im not sure what a good price range would be for gifts, im currently working 2jobs because money is kinda tight but i have 3mts before the wedding…
Post # 3
I give what I would normally give, were I not a bridesmaid. I don’t think those costs really factor into the gift. I would give what you are comfortable with. If money is tight maybe something $25 for the shower, and $75 for the wedding?
Post # 4
I give what I would normally give, with the caveat of based on what I can afford at the time.
But I will say this, when I’m tight on funds (as I often was when I was Bridesmaid or Best Man in my 20’s) I fully embraced the etiquette rule that I had up to a year to give a gift after the wedding. I’m a well known registry finisher. 🙂
Post # 5
I think for the Bridal Shower 50-75 and the wedding depends if you have a SO or not, so 100-150 if its just you and 200 if its you and your SO
Post # 6
@alleycat1984: SO? i missed the conversion word for that…???
Post # 7
@AndysCraftsNmore: SO = significant other 🙂
Post # 8
if the bride is feeding him at her wedding you should drop about $50.00 on a present.
Post # 10
– from what I have heard it is typical for average guests (not so close to the bride) to give 50 and anyone closer a little more (75-100).
– 100 per person is the minimum gift in my area- Anything less than that is considered rude or cheap (Long Island- NY).
however there are always exceptions to the rules. You have to do what you can afford. Like others have said- save up and give it later if possible. Even though you are spending money as a bridesmaid that doesnt mean that you should give less of a gift. Being a bridesmaid is a choice (unless you are close family). Yes it is a finanical burden- but thats part of being a bridesmaid. Hey we all know what it feels like to be tight on money. You have to do what is best.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@AndysCraftsNmore: Whatever you can comfortably afford. Gifts vary based on the giver and it’s appropriate to give what you can afford. You are not expected to give a gift that will result in you not being able to pay your bills for the month. I typically gift between $50 and $100 depending on how well I know the bride and what my financial position is at the time of the wedding. If you give a shower gift that can also count as your wedding gift, no need to duplicate.