- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
Hello- looking for advice-
one of my once close friends has just gotten engaged, which is very exciting and I am very happy for her! She asked me to be her bridesmaid though and here is my dilemma. Of course I accepted to be her bridesmaid.
i got married in January 2013 and our friendship went down hill from there. When I got engaged I wasn’t that close with her so I didn’t have her as a bridesmaid- after the wedding she told me that the whole day she wished she was standing up there with me!! I felt so bad!!
after that was her 21st, where she treated me with very little respect and tried to make me do things that i repeatedly told her that I wasn’t comfortable doing- I won’t go into detail, but after that I kept my distance. we did talk after this but I could never get my side of the story across because she can talk me into the ground! I always ended up just agreeing with her and apologising. we still see each other but it’s just polite chit chat and we hardly ever hang out alone.
When she got engaged I was just so happy for her I forgot about everything that had happened. I guess I’m just worried she will try and make me do things I don’t want to do, and expect too much from me like she did at her 21st!
My question is, should I say something to her just so we have clear boundaries that she won’t cross? I put up with it at her 21st but I won’t be doing it again.. Should I take some preventative measure and tell her how I feel?