(Closed) Bridesmaid told me she is TTC…what should I do?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I keep her as a bridesmaid?
    Yes, you can't un-ask someone to be a bridesmaid : (187 votes)
    82 %
    No, you can politely explain why she can't be a bridemaid : (21 votes)
    9 %
    Other option (please explain below) : (20 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 181
    Member
    1418 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    kipper88:  you have some issues.. no need to be so rude, arent we all adults? grow up.

    Post # 182
    Member
    12076 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    My only question about all the interfering comments is whether or not she knows something you don’t about how your Fiance feels about how much you are spending. Or if your Fiance tells her personal stuff about your finances and she’s alarmed. Not that it would be an excuse. 

    I know you’ve said you and Fiance discuss all expenses, but if  he didn’t agree with her I would think he would put her in her place. Why doesn’t he? My issue would be as much with Fiance for letting it continue as with her. 

    As for the dress, I think your solution to wait is appropriate and that it would have been awful to ask her to step down. But I don’t agree that being justifiably annoyed with her interfering comments entitled you to be upset that she didn’t tell you she was TTC immediately. Frankly, that was none of your business, dress or no dress. Had she gotten pregnant without alerting you to the possibility, there were still plenty of options. 

    As it was, she said something just as soon as she realized the dress you chose might not work. She didn’t want to be out the money or have you be out the money for a dress that couldn’t be worn. If it was a different dress, she might not have had to say anything at all. 

    Post # 183
    Member
    122 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

     

    kaitlynaubrey01:  Im sure her comment will get moderated!

    Some people though. Seriously, what is this? High school?

    Post # 184
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    1418 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Aussies:  right! so mean. i feel like this happens so much on this site. I’ve barely posted my own threads because of these people.

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