(Closed) Bridesmaid trouble…

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Busy bee

I’m really not sure why you made her a bridesmaid… Just text her back and say that if that’s the way she feels, then you do not think she should be a bridesmaid in your wedding.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

She doesn’t sound like much of a friend. I say she definitely should not be a part of the bridal party. It sounds like she isn’t speaking to you anyway so not much of a loss there. If you do speak to her you should let her know that you have cut down on bridesmaids or don’t want someone there who isn’t supportive. She will probably be happy anyway….

Post # 4
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186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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ArcadiaRose:  Exactly what I was going to say!

 

If she doesn’t support your marriage, or relationship she certainly shouldn’t be a bridesmaids or even a guest at your wedding 

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Agree with PP, she just took herself out by letting you know she doesn’t support your relationship. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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mod214:  Id call her and say “I’ve been thinking a lot about what you said regarding marriage and my relationship. Since you feel that way, I am not comfortable with having you as my bridesmaid. I need my bridesmaids to support our marriage”. And leave it at that. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

See what happens when you do things wedding-related out of “obligation”?

At this point I’ll be surprised if she even turns up to the wedding. I mean, that would be “expected of her” and she can’t have that now, can she?

I would ask her to step down and if she’s so unsupportive of your wedding and marriage, I wouldn’t even invite her as a guest. It’s disrespectful to your Fiance.

I see your wedding is in August so you still have a bit of time to replace her (if you feel you need to – you could always just go 1 bridesmaid short). I wouldn’t leave it any later though. You certainly don’t want any bad-blood ans negative energy any closer to your wedding day.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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mod214:  Nope. Not enough. I would change the line about her letting you know if she wants to attend as a guest. I would just say, Id love for you to attend still as a guest. And send her and invite and let her decide then.

Post # 12
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683 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Dump her. She is not worth it

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

MAYBE she knows something you don’t. Id ask that prior to dumping her

Post # 15
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321 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

wtf? Dump her!

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