Post # 1
I recently got engaged. I have only asked my best friend to be in the wedding. Another friend of mine has been asking if I have decided who else is going to be in the wedding. And I haven’t. We have been talking about my plans and all the little things. She said she is excited to be in the wedding and cant wait, she has found a dress she wants to wear in the wedding and she will have to save up for it, and on and on. At first she told me she was sorry for assuming she was in the wedding but she is still acting as if i have asked her. How do i tell her she isnt in the wedding?
Post # 3
You kind of have to be straight forward and honest. “FH and I have decided to have a small bridal party. We want to include everyone, but that just isn’t possible. I am sorry.” You might think about asking her to do something else, like personal attendant, or guest book attendant, or something like that.
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Post # 4
Please don’t ask her to be a guest book or personal attendant. Those are jobs, not honours. Bridesmaid and readers are honours, everything else is like ‘you were almost good enough, but nit quite’.
You also might want to wait to at least a year from or wedding (or less, I did 6 months) to ask your bridesmaids. Relationships can change and you might end up with regrets. Just read the boards, you’ll see tons of venting/complaining posts.