- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I’m going to start off by explaining that my Fiance and I decided not to have a Maid/Matron of Honor or Best Man. There are a lot of reasons for that, but at the end of the day-we decided that we are so close with so many of our attendants, this was just the best way to go.
One of my bridesmaids however, has seemed to kind of given herself this title, even though I’ve made it clear that we aren’t having Bridesmaid or Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor. She recently got engaged and asked me to be her Maid/Matron of Honor, which I gladly accepted. About a month ago, she started acting really distant and strange. When I asked her to order her dress by a certain date, she came up with every reason possible why it couldn’t be done (I gave them plenty of notice, and it wasn’t an issue for anyone else-including the girls who live out of state). Thinking money was potentially an issue, I offered to help her with the cost, but she said she had it covered. She later told me the reason she was acting this way is because one of the other girls offered to go try the dresses on, and it was a slap in the face that I didn’t ask her. She knows that the only reason I didn’t ask her is because she was working, and with the wedding being in April, I had a short window of time to get this taken care of. In fact, no one ended up trying the dresses on-and she’s aware of that. She’s remained distant since then, saying she wants to help my mom with the bridal shower, but ignoring me or my mother any time she’s been asked to help. This girl was my best friend prior to the wedding, and I barely hear from her at all the last few months. My Fiance recently got a job offer in the state where we are originally from, where this bridesmaid also lives, and she didn’t even seem to care when I told her I’d be moving back. I keep asking my Fiance, mother, and other bridesmaids if I am being “bridezilla-like” and they all keep trying to encourage me that I’m really not. I haven’t had any of these issues with anyone else. My biggest fear is that after the wedding is over, our friendship will be as well. Any advice is appreciated!!