(Closed) Bridesmaid troubles (what else?)

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

that’s pretty much all you can do.

since nov 12 is crazy.  sounds like she isn’t really interested.  i would give her a deadline.  say, you really would like her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man but if she doesn’t call you back by Xday then you are going to have to move on.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Country Club

I’m in a similar situation. I’m in England and my wedding party is all in Ohio. I have had problems getting bridesmaids to go to dress fittings, email each other back about details, and with reassuring me a date my mom picked for the shower would work for all of them.

I just became really annoying and kept calling, emailing, facebooking, and texting until they responded. It’s a pain! 

I think the idea you have about another role in the wedding would be good idea!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Country Club

@Bumblebeast:  Haha! Are you in England and from Ohio?? That would be cool! lol

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Bumblebeast:  I am going through this right now. It’s been 6 months of unresponsiveness. In Feb. I wanted the dresses ordered but she told me she couldn’t until end of March (Spring Break). I told her that was fine but the dress needed to be ordered by end of April. A bit before spring break I texted her that I was going with other BMs to get the dress and asked if she wanted to come. She said “I told you I’m busy. You just don’t understand the stress I’m under right now. I’ll call you spring break” she never called me. It’s now May. So I’m calling her up soon (if I can’t get ahold of her – facebook) and telling her it’s not going to work out. If she’s so busy now, how will she have time for my wedding? Also, she didn’t order her dress and she had 2.5 months notice and one reminder from me in March. 

So my advice, is to stick it out as long as you can, but have a back up plan if she does drop out. If you want to find a replacement bridesmaid, give her an early deadline on the dress. If you don’t care that it’s uneven, then give her as much time as you can stand. 

If you give her a dress deadline and she doesn’t meet that deadline, she can’t want to be in the bridal party that badly.

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