(Closed) Bridesmaid Vent

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1461 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@NavyandGrey:  Yikes, how stressful. She really should have brought this up sooner, I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this!

Post # 4
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

She should have brought this up as soon as you chose the dresses, yes.  But as brides, and first and foremost friends, it is our responsibility to get individual budgets for our bridesmaids prior to looking at dresses.  If we find a dress that is out of budget for some, and really like it, we must offer to pay the difference.

Perhaps she was embarrassed about not being able to afford it – maybe she went back to her bank statements, monthly bills and salaries, and realized that no, she really can’t afford it.

Honestly, I’d balk at a $234 dress as well, especially since that doesn’t include alterations.  I know this is a vent, and you said you would help her pay for it, but I definitely suggest you stay sensitive to her financial interests.  That’s a lot of money.

Post # 5
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3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

As the flaky one, I can say it’s very possible she saw the note but just didn’t read it thoroughly, just did a “mental note, order dress, info in here when I need it.”  Then came back to look it up to order it and did a “$234?!  HOLY SHIT!”  At least, that’s what I’d do. 

I’d cut her a break on the timing and financially – that is a lot for a dress.  My MOH’s dress was $160 and I thought that was crazy, so I bought it.  And her shoes. 

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I let my bridesmaids choose their own dresses.  Then I got a text today saying she wanted to kill me because it’s so expensive with alterations.  ugh

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