Post # 1
Starting this week, the week of the wedding, my fabulous FI’s sister decides to act like she’s totally clueless (his dad’s doing the same thing). She’s telling pople I made her buy makeup for the wedding and since she doesn’t know how to put it on (at 22) it’s some big issue. My sister and I both told her we’d help her the day of but now she’s recruiting someone else to do it for her. She also has super frizzy hair and by request of our hairdresser we’re going to straighten it the night before; guess what, she’s recruited someone else to do that too! Now she’s asking stupid questions like what time is the rehearsal dinner. 1) Does noone in your family communicate? 2)Did you not read your invitation? Tonight she asks what time she has to be at the church Saturday?!? WTF, I told you this morning that we were doing our hair at 9 and going to church from there. I’m beginning to think she’s the root of all my most recent stress. I love her, I promise you I do but I’m about to snap her neck!
Have I don’e something wrong to make her feel so clueless?
Post # 3
Sorry you are so stressed.
Did you ask her to biy makeup? You didnt say you didnt require her. If you did, and she doesnt normally wear it, I can understand her stress.
I am not sure its a problem she found someone else to straigten her hair. It probably saves her money.
And stuff happens like losing invitations. I am going to a wedding in a few weeks and even though I made the reservation for the hotel, I have no idea where it is. I dont have the invite or save the date any longer so I am going to have to ask the bride. (It went into a scrapbook I made for her). It happens.
I understand you are stressed and this is annoying, but from what I can interpret from this post it all sounds minor and most of it sounds reasonable.
Post # 4
Take a deep breath. She’s probably feeling like she’s not the center of attention and is trying to be. You are a day before me.. and I DEFINATELY feel like we are at the place where we need to just ENJOY being brides.. we have 1 week left. Let her play clueless.. if her hair and make up isnt perfect- it wont ruin your pictures of you and your hubby. My Fiance and I are sending a detailed itinerary out this week so every one has the same information. That may help- but honestly- ask one of your bridesmaids to deal with her day of and just enjoy!
Post # 5
From your post, I think your Future Sister-In-Law is possibly a little nervous and is just triple checking everything to make sure she is on time and doing the right thing. I’ve lost invitations before and honestly, my family doesn’t really discuss these things.
Also, I’m 20 and I don’t wear make up. I didn’t even wear it for our engagement pictures, so I would have no idea how to put it on properly either. Maybe she knows someone she is more comfortable with than you (not meant offensively, just someone she may know better) or maybe she is worried you’ll be too busy on your wedding day to help her. She may also have a hairdresser she goes to regularly and prefers.
I wouldn’t stress about it, try to relax and enjoy you wedding 🙂 It sounds like she just wants to be prepared and comfortable for your wedding.
Post # 6
Thanks for the replies. No I didn’t require her to buy makeup. She came to me and asked what makeup is best to buy because she wants to wear it for the wedding. The person she’s having help her is the woman that came into her dad’s life a month agon. I’ve been around for 8 years and have known here even longer so I don’t think it’s a comfort issue. And the straightening has nothing to do with saving money. My sister was doing it for her for free. The bridesmaids are only paying for their dresses (which were made, so inexpensive anyways) so I don’t feel like saving money should be an issue. No she’s not nervous, she has no common sense and I mean this in the nicest way possible. This morning she asked for the address of the seamstresses home we had just returned from 5 minutes earlier so she could plug it in the GPS and find it again because she left her phone there. We live in the country and the seamstress lives 5 miles up the road and you really can’t remember how to get where we just were?!? Sorry, she’s making me crazy. She’s been down my throat all week about things I took care of a long time ago such as memorial for their mom, etc. I know it’s all minor but when I get phone calls demanding I tell people about the wedding when I’ve been including them all along I get a little peeved. Have you people not been listening to what I’m telling you??!
Is it bad I just want to go decorate for everything by myself so I don’t have them in my way? Because I know that will be the next battle.
Oh and P.S. I don’t care if she wears make up or not for the wedding.