(Closed) Bridesmaid vent… Help! (kinda long)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
12407 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

Have you tried just asking her politely to come to your bachelorette party?  And for some more help with other various wedding things?  Sometimes people just get so wrapped up in their own life that they don’t think about others.  But maybe if you just asked nicely at first and explained how important it is to you that she help you with things, without making it this big deal about how upset you are, she might come around.  Good luck!

Post # 4
495 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I would agree with Miss Mouse. I think you should just tell her how you’re sad that she is unable to come, and ask her if she could for you-it would mean a lot.  I think you just need to nicely tell her how much certain things mean to you, and hopefully since you’re being such a great friend and helping her, she will do the same for you!

Post # 5
774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I agree maybe she doesn’t realize how much this is upsetting you and if you tell her how sad it is making you then maybe she will make more of an effort.

Post # 6
2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Treat others how you’d like to be treated.  If she treats you this way during your wedding I’d give her a taste of her own medicine when it comes time to help her during hers.  

Honestly, weddings really do show you who your true friends are and who is worthwhile.  And it sounds like this friend really cares more about herself than being a friend to you.  

To me it sounds like she is conveniently planning all these other things to land on the same days as your wedding events.  Can she not afford the events?  Can she not afford gas to drive to them?  You may want to ask her if money is the problem.



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