- 6 years ago
I started writing you an essay and then realised you wouldn’t appreciate it so here is the really really short version (which is still a mini essay, sorry)!
I grew up from the age of about 13 with two best mates we all got along great and we all joked we would be each others bridesmaids.
I moved away from home about 4 years ago and bridesmaid X lets call her never bothers to contact me reply to my emails or basically is a friend at all has also never visited me even though I invite her ALL the time. However when I go home to visit ma and pa every 3 months or so (its a 4hr car journey) I make the effort to see her and its like we are back at school again she is great.
Bridesmaid lets call her B is much more contactable and actually makes the effort to call me once in a while remember my birthday and replys to my emails immediately and is really excited about the wedding calling me every so often. friend X just doesn’t seem to care.
When I got engaged they both joked about planning my Hen do, let me make this clear, I have not asked them to be bridesmaids and I wasn’t going to until I got a date set (which I haven’t done yet).
Now since I have been living with my fiance for the past 4 years I have become great friends with his brothers long term girlfriend and I want to ask her to be a bridesmaid along with friend B.
I asked friend X if she would like to come wedding shopping with Mum and friend B and I never got a response, I tried calling emailing and texting over a month and the only reply I got was ‘yeh sounds great I’m really busy now let you know when I’m free’ and she never does.
However friend X had the time to update her facebook status every 5 minutes and upload pictures of her relaxing on holiday GRRRRR thats another story! She wont reply to a simple email, how can I rely on her being a Bridesmaid?
I think I am really going to offend friend X if I ask friend B in-fact there is no thinking about it I will but fiance says friend X does not deserve to be bridesmaid and I am inclined to agree!
I think I need a little comforting I am so lost, thanks for reading, I feel better for sharing.