- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
So, a good friend of mine and bridesmaid hates my FI! She’s never been terribly fond of him mostly because she should sense quite quickly that he wasn’t her biggest fan either. However, they have always gotten along until recently.
A little history, Fiance and I have been together for 6 years, have 2 children together, have gone through some ups and downs including 2 separations, but have managed to work things out, find our love for each other time and time again and keep our family intact.
Bridesmaid and I have been great friends for almost 14 years and have also seen ups and downs in our friendship and have even gone more than a year without speaking, but always seem to reconnect.
The issue bridesmaid has with Fiance is that she thinks I’m too good for him, thinks he’s lazy, selfish, self-centered, always grumpy, no fun, and most recently because he called off a surprise birthday party bridesmaid was planning for me because he didn’t like the bar she chose to have it at.
The issue Fiance has with bridesmaid is that he thinks she’s a lazy, selfish, immature, drunk, coke snorting, man-eater who uses people for her own personal gain.
So, that leaves me squarely in the middle. According to bridesmaid, she had been telling him about the party via email since January and he never had a problem with it, according to her he was onboard.
Fiance says that after an incident at this same bar a few weekends before when bridesmaid made a huge scene in front of everyone over the bunk 8 ball she just spent $150 on, he was disgusted and shocked and didn’t want to be anywhere near that bar because of the “type” of crowd that hung out there. He was furious and grilled me and my other friends about whether we do it also, which we don’t.
Bridesmaid’s decisions have always been her own and her lifestyle and choices have never influenced mine. She’s been my wild and crazy and I’ve been her calm and steady. Fiance relies this and has never and would never tell me I couldn’t be friends with her.
So, now they’re both pissed at each other and the weddings in 6 months. I can’t even talk about the wedding in front of bridesmaid without some snarky, bitchy remark. I feel like it’s not even a question of if I WANT her to be in the wedding, but a question of SHOULD she be in the wedding? At this point I don’t even see why she would want to if she feels so strongly against it…?
Anyone else ever experience anything like this?