Post # 1
So I let my bridesmaids know what time we can get to the venue at. They have a bridal suite and hair and makeup will be coming there to get us ready. A few of them have asked to go last and get there as late as possible. I’m not going to lie, it makes me feel bad like they have better things to do that day. Am I being unreasonable for thinking they should all get there the morning of to get ready together?
Post # 2
What time are you asking them to be there? What do they have to do on the morning of instead?
It’s probably not the case of having “better things” to so, people have other responsibilities though.
Post # 3
What time is your wedding and how many hours before the wedding are you expecting them to arrive?
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
Yes, its unreasonable. If they wanted to show up on time and do their own hair and make up before arriving then that should be up to them as well. Everyones not jumping to spend the day getting ready together and honestly some people aren’t even comfortable with the idea. I think you’re making this bigger than it needs to be. As long as they arrive with enough time to be ready to walk down the aisle then let it go.
Post # 5
They may be anticipating a long day and hoping to sleep in a little so they can enjoy your ceremony/ reception without being burnt out and yawning mid-evening, wedding days are often long and draining on all involved. Or they may be puzzled by a time much earlier than expected. Or there may be other factors- child minding/ pet sitter/ out of town drive?
What time is the ceremony and what time are they expected to arrive to get ready?
Post # 6
Your approach may have to vary from mine if you aren’t paying for hair and makeup, but that said, I’m just telling my bridesmaids when they need to be there. I booked and am paying for their hair and makeup to get done. The scheduled start time is based off of my ceremony time (working backward of course). You might have to put your foot down about the timing, because running late can really impact your wedding.
If they’re paying for their own makeup and hair, however, you might have a harder time getting them there earlier.
Post # 7
In reality the only obligation you should impose is to be there shortly before the ceremony. If you want a few photos in the bridal room just before then as long as they are ready to go for that you should not be micromanaging. If you are providing or paying for hair and makeup and they accept then you can simply offer the choice of being there at a certain time or DIY or go to their own salon and get there later.
Post # 8
Mine were the same..a few thought 8 AM was too early (but the wedding was at 1). They got there around 11 right before pictures. It did make me feel kind of bad too because you just imagine everyone getting ready together but I did not push the issue, I just let them come when they wanted. I was in a wedding before where we had to be there at 9, wedding was at 5. We sat around doing nothing for several hours. I am curious when you’re asking them to be there vs when your wedding starts, really makes a difference.
Post # 9
I think that’s kind of rude. You know that you signed up to be a bridesmaid and you need to show up at a certain time for hair and makeup. Get your shit together, you know this event is coming up and you need to be there. Other responsibilities or not, you signed on, the least you can do is show up when the bride asks you to, especially for hair and makeup.
I’d be firm, tell them they need to arrive by X time so that everyone can get finished on time. Some MUAs will require the bride to go last, so I wouldn’t be telling anyone they can go last in line before the wedding.
Post # 10
I was just in a wedding this weekend where I got my hair and makeup done at 7am for a ceremony at 4:30pm. We were able to have about a half hour to an hour of time to get our dresses on and stuff before some pictures at 2:30, but I was the first of the girls to get my stuff done. The bride’s sister originally had that time but she didn’t want to get up so early. I’m used to waking up earlier than that for work, so I volunteered. There were about 6 ppl to get stuff done so it really did take up most of that time between when I started and when we were supposed to be completely ready. I went out and got us chik fil a breakfast around 9:30 and we got pizza around noon. It was an early day for me, but still fun to hang out all day. 🙂
Post # 11
Some people aren’t morning people. Also this takes up a whole day probably – I only have so much time to get things done on the weekend as is. They probably know they’ll want to drink and enjoy the party and wake up late the next day, so yeah… other people’s lives don’t just stop because you are getting married. People run errands and enjoy having downtime and use their weekends to do a lot of things they don’t get done in the week and weddings usually monopolize a lot of that time as it is. I don’t think it is unreasonable to not want to sit around watching other people get hair and makeup done when you could do other things. Honestly, that sounds super boring to me.
Post # 12
What time are you asking them to be there?
For my wedding, pretty much all of my BMs asked to go last for hair and makeup…the reason being they didn’t want to have to sit around all day all done up just waiting. Which I totally get, I hate when I’ve had to do that too for weddings! But the fact of the matter is that not everyone can go last. Unless you have a hair and makeup person for each and every bridal party member, there has to be an order. So I just told them that.
Post # 13
I would try not to take this personally. It is rude for them to ask to go last unless they have a small child at home or reason to come late, but they most likely just want to sleep in and relax before a long day. Wedding days can be very long and getting ready first and then waiting around while other’s get their hair/makeup done isn’t everyone’s cup of tea.
Post # 14
You’re upset that your bridesmaids have a life and other obligations than sitting around all day waiting for hair & makeup with you?? Get over yourself.
I’ve been a bridesmaid so many times (10+) and I’ve always been given “my” time to show up for hair & makeup, ie – say H/MU started at 1pm for a 6:30 ceremony, my time to show up was 3pm. The party kind of grows all day as girls finish rather than everyone waiting around for their turn.
Post # 15
I asked everyone to be there for 10 am, makeup and hair are supposed to be done by 2pm. I also have 4 younger girls (under 10) in addition to the 6 bridesmaid and myself and was hoping to save them for last as little kids like to play with their hair. We are taking pictures before leaving for the church, ceremony starts at 4pm. I am not paying for their hair and makeup but I also didn’t make it mandatory, I asked whoever wants to get their hair & or make up done at the Venue can, just let me know.