- 6 years ago
First off, this is more of a vent than anything. I love my bridesmaid dearly, and I just needed to get this off my chest.
My bridesmaid and I have been friends for the past two years, and we got to know each other through grad school. So, one of the reason I chose her to be my bridesmaid above any other girl friends, is obviously cause we are good friends. The other reason is I knew she would make a beautiful bridesmaid (yes, she is gorgeous).
So we are both trying to look great for my wedding. Well, me for obvious reason, and she wants to look great as a bridesmaid. Which is fine, until I begin to feel a little “threatened” by her need to look “better than you” (in her words) for my wedding day. That kinda rubbed me the wrong way, but I just tell her in a jovial manner that she can’t upstage the bride and move on with life.
Anways, we were both doing some fitness routines at our own pace, and as I began actively working out two months ago (she’s been working out since forever), we would update each other on our progress. Since we’re both working out, I shared my exercise routine with her (if you’re interested, I just do some basic planks and plank variations daily), she picked it up and started following suit and we continue updating each other on how we did and what we did daily with our planks. I was okay with that initially cause it is encouraging to have your bridal party sharing the same goal, until recently I can’t help but feel irritated.
Everyday, without fail, she will update me on how she woke up at 5:45 in the morning to start plank exercise, how long she can hold her planks, how many squats she did, her yoga trainings for hours, the abs butt thigh exercise, how she skipped dinner because she took an extra piece of cracker for snack (no joke!), and how much longer she hold her planks in the evening …. It really was fine in the beginning, but lately it is starting to stress me out. On top of that, she will nag me (out of kindness i presume) that i shouldn’t be lazy, and that i should workout in the morning, too (which, for the record, i did, just not as much as she did), and repeatedly remind herself (and me) that she needs to look great on my wedding day. This irks me so much that I can’t help but feel that she’s trying to upstage me on my day.
I suppose I wouldn’t feel as insecure as I am now if she didn’t repeatedly mention that she has to look better than me on my day. Looking great on my wedding day is totally cool with me, but looking better than me just really rub me the wrong way. Well I don’t know. Maybe I’m petty and I just need to work on my self esteem?
Sorry this is long. Just needed to let off some steam.