Bridesmaid wants to bring new bf…

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
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Bumble bee

Engaged or live together tends to be for regular guests. 

Most people feel the wedding party is owed a +1 even if the relationship is new. 

 

Post # 18
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Busy bee

Not really starting anything. But $300 is only 1% of your 100 plates cost of $30,000. 

So why bring the numbers to the forum anyway? 

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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justwaiting1230 :  It’s a DW? So you asked her to take time off work and go through the trouble and expense of going on YOUR dream vacation, and now you want to tell her no she can’t bring a guest? Ballsy. Ball-zee.

Post # 20
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Destination wedding? Yeah she gets a +1. If she’s making an overnight trip to an unfamiliar town, boyfriend is invited along too.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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Daisy_Mae :  Yep. It’s a destination wedding AND she’s in the wedding party. She should get a plus one. Clearly she believes her new Boyfriend or Best Friend will be sticking around for a while if they’re willing to shell out for a flight for him as well.

I think the etiquette is that anyone in a committed relationship should be invited with their partner (not “and guest”, by name), they don’t necessarily have to be engaged or living together. But maybe that’s more generous a definition than others would agree with. Regardless, she asked for one and she’s probably dropping a fair amount of money to come support you, so I’d suck it up and let her bring him. 

Post # 23
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Busy bee

Two weeks is way too short for her to be inviting him. I would feel kinda weird if I had known a guy for two weeks and he invited me to a wedding. 

 

Post # 24
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Bumble Beekeeper

You sound really petty. You only finalized your guest list last week and she let you know today. So you havent even sent out invites yet. She is spending time, money and effort to celebrate you and this is really a sticking point for you? Ugh. With friends like that…

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

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justwaiting1230 :  Since she insisted she didn’t need a +1 and you took that into account when you made the guest list, I would tell her you’re already over on invites but if the numbers come down under capacity, he can come. That will buy you some time to see if they’re still together. 

Post # 27
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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justwaiting1230 :  this is totally up to you and I can see where you are coming from. If it were me and you said no, I wouldn’t resent you for it. But… my best friend let me bring my spanking new boyfriend (long distance, met for real in August, her wedding in October). We’re married now. I’m glad I have that memory.

Post # 28
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Worker bee

It’s customary that bridesmaids get a plus 1.

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

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justwaiting1230 :  I mean, if he’s willing to buy a plane ticket, split a hotel room and take time off from work to attend a stranger’s wedding then it sounds like he’ll be sticking around for a while. 

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