Post # 1
I am not quite sure how to handle this one. I have one Bridesmaid or Best Man and one Maid/Matron of Honor. My Moh is my sister and wears a size 6. My Bridesmaid or Best Man is a friend and she wears a size 24. We recently went looking for dresses (we need to order by January) and my Bridesmaid or Best Man decides that she wants to order her dress in a size 20 because “she wants to lose weight before the wedding”. My problem is, what if she doesn’t? Then the dress wont fit her and we are screwed. I told her to order her size and they can take it in but she won’t budge. What would you do?
Post # 3
i would just tell her that you have been reading alot about it and you think you should just order her regular size – its easy to have it altered smaller but almost impossible to make it bigger -better safe than sorry.
Post # 4
or you could always tell her these dresses tend to run small – which is usually true when choosing wedding/bridesmaids dresses
Post # 5
@Tswife4ever: ditto. Tell her a dress can be altered when she looses the weight.
Post # 5
i would try to push her to order the size she is now, or at least a 22 (a closer cut to the 24 than the 20 will be) also, where are you ordering from? i know that most designers take a while for the dresses to come in, but if you’re going through somewhere like davids bridal, it may be easier to exchange as it gets closer if the smaller size doesnt fit (a friend of mine was in a wedding and was able to exchange hers the week before for the right size)
Post # 6
I had a bm who did the same thing, she actually wanted to wait to order her dress because she was planning on going down another size. Well she ordered her dress in a smaller size, then gained about 15-20 pounds and had to buy a new dress. I told her from the start that as much as I would love to have her in the wedding if she doesn’t have the correct dress that fits her she can’t walk down the aisle.
Post # 7
@Tswife4ever: I echo totheislnds words. It will be easier to take a dress in than take it out.
Post # 8
Oh yeah…definitely tell her that it’s easier to take it out then take it in…it can also be more expensive to have the seamstress take it out because it’s more difficult.
I know that they can usually take dresses in over 3 sizes. I would rather have a possible exciting trip to a seamstress then a disastrous trip to the bridal shop.
Post # 9
I agree with the PP or even do a size 22. I am sure maybe that one will fit her better in certain areas. Going down almost 2 size is really hard. I ordered my Maid/Matron of Honor dress for a wedding a size smaller and it ended up fitting perfect and I didnt lose any weight.
Post # 10
Did the salesperson at the store offer any help? When I was in between sizes for my gown they strongly encouraged me to go up a size instead of down due to the fact that is is so much easier to alter it smaller. 🙂 Maybe if she hears it from an outside person she’ll take it more seriously.
Post # 11
Ugh this happened to me as a bridesmaid but not really by choice. We were two bms and one moh and she wanted us in the same color but different dresses to compliment each of our figures. The only dress that looked terrific on me but was a bit too small was a size 8. So after hours and finally all of us agreeing, we are ordering and I said ‘I need a 10’. Nope. No more, dress is not going to be stocked in that size for the wedding and nothing bigger. Awesome. I passed it off as no big deal to my friend, the bride and said ‘that’s okay, I can lose some weight’. It wasn’t even a lot of weight and she looked so nervous. I felt awful! But I got into it. I will say I dieted for about two months and still needed spanx. I would tell your bm that the dress runs small and to get a 22….good luck~!
Post # 12
I have heard this from so many sales people as well, doesn’t really matter what size you are, it is much easier & cheaper to take a dress in than let it out.
It would really be a shame if she ordered a too small dress and was out the money orcouldn’t be in teh wedding because of it. :/
Post # 13
Yeah, my sister wanted to do that for my wedding…she’s my Maid/Matron of Honor and only attendant…while I have faith in her ability to lose weight, I told her if she didn’t fit into her dress come my wedding I would kill her lol. Not seriously of course haha. She ordered the size that fit, so if she gains any weight, she’s in trouble lol. I don’t give a crap what size she is, I just want the dress to fit.
Post # 14
People are only successful losing weight when they do it for themselves, not for someone else or some occasion.
I would encourage her in her plan to lose weight if that’s what she wants to do, but I would also insist that it be ordered in the size she needs now.
You didn’t say if you are paying for the dresses. If so, that would give you the final say.
If not, then I would offer to happily pay for the alterations if it needs to be taken in.
Post # 15
I immediately thought of the movie Made of Honor. Sometimes it is embarrassing when you are bigger to order a dress around smaller women. Just tell her to get the size she is now. If she looses weight before the wedding great! If not she wont have to feel awkward and have a dress crisis. That is what alterations for are too.