(Closed) Bridesmaid wants to order smaller dress size?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Just say no.  What happens if she doesn’t lose enough weight?  You have a pretty tight time frame and that’s a lot of pressure on a new mom.  Order the size she needs now.  Since they are convertible, she’ll be able to adjust it.  If it was a year or more and she was normally below a 12, that would be a different conversation.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

You can always make a dress smaller not the other way arround.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would politely tell her “No”.  I remember buying a size smaller for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress and I had to lose weight as well as use get a super waist cincher.  I had a liquid diet that day.lmfao

She just doesn’t have the time to lose the weight so why force it and then have to buy 2 dresses.  She needs that $$$ for diapers. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

NO! A bridesmaid in a wedding I was in last year did this. She never lost the weight and the dress was so small on her. It looked awful. If she had just gotten the dress in the appropriate size she would have looked beautiful, but instead she looked “sausage-y” like you said, and it was kinda sad. 🙁

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Maid/Matron of Honor ordered a dress on size smaller and I have been so nervous.   They come in next week.  She has been working out, but it’s not a risk I would want to take…

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree with the others I would just say no. Ordering a smaller dress is always always a bad idea. Since they are convertible I’m sure she could still make the bigger one work if she does lose weight or she could get it altered. Another option since they’re not typical bridesmaids dresses that have to be ordered 6 months in advance you could probably wait to order closer to the date and she could see if she lost the weight or not.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

I had a bridesmaid do this and she did lose the weight but the dress still didn’t fit because you don’t know where the weight comes off of.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

@elliestan: I like @iloveflowers: suggestion and maybe you could use that to explain to her why you would prefer to order it in her size. Also, clearly you can always take a dress in but you cannot let it out.

Post # 15
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231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

My fiance’s sister did this… insisted she’d “crash diet” to fit into a dress that is a 2 and she is a 6 currently.

For your Bridesmaid or Best Man, let her know it’s easier to alter it to smaller than larger! mine didn’t understand this though, it was all about the number size to her -_-

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m having the same dilemma, I asked her to get a size bigger than she is now and I simply told her that it’s easier to make the dress smaller to fit her if she loses weight than trying to make it bigger or having to buy a new dress all together. I also made sure she understood she wasn’t the only one that I asked to do this. She probably already feels uncomfortable being a larger girl, so the last thing I wanted to do was make her feel like I was singling her out. I would rather all the dresses be too big and get fitted properly than either not fitting at all or looking like they stuffed themselves into them.

Good luck!

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