Bridesmaid with extremely long hair

posted 2 years ago in Beauty
Post # 31
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2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

weddinggirl2009 :  no- you cannot ask her to cut her hair for your wedding… ESP considering you knew it was like this to begin with! Personally I LOVE long hair- it takes quite a bit of dedication, work, & patientce to keep it that long- I have had hair past my butt before & love it, and I also know many apostolic women who choose not to cut their hair per their religous beliefs. There really are some great hairstyles for super long hair: 

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Post # 34
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2527 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

weddinggirl2009 :  The reason for your post is you’re concerned how it’s going to look for your wedding. So you sound like a brat. 

Also, I wash my hair only a few times a week. And I know a lot of my friends do the same. 

It sounds like she needs help not judgement from you about the “condition of her hair”. 

Post # 35
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2805 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Today I am thankful that the OP is not marrying into my family. 

Seriously, you didn’t get enough answers the last time you posted this nonsense?

Post # 37
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

-Honestly- leave her alone, you’re not helping.

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

weddinggirl2009 :  when my hair was long I wore it up and didn’t display it. I washed my a few times a week – still do now it’s short. It doesn’t need daily washing. Before it was cut I hadn’t had it cut in over a year and I have never trimmed my own split ends. I had split ends and my hair wasn’t in the best condition but I’ve also seen worse hair on people who “display” their hair so obviously have no hygiene problems (wtf by the way). If my brothers partner told me I was unhygienic because she didn’t like my hair and told me I looked homeless I would not want to stand up for her at her wedding. Maybe you should voice hear concerns and have her drop out then she doesn’t embarrass you.

Maybe because her family is so judgemental of her she feels awkward going to a hairdressers and getting it trimmed. Maybe because they don’t stand up for her when strangers handle her hair, she feels awkward letting any stranger voluntarily near her. Maybe because she’s pretty but her hair doesn’t match your vision of pretty hair she feels awkward going to a salon where other people won’t think she’ll meet the required pretty hair standards!

She may well have some mental health issues which mean she can’t cut her hair. If she was a hoarder, would you go I to her house and start throwing stuff out? No, you’d take baby steps with her. If this is tied up with mental health as you keep claiming then 6 inches isn’t baby steps. 6 inches isn’t a trim. If you genuinely want to address her wellbeing then she may not be in a position to cut her hair before your wedding, it may take years. So do it because you genuinely want to help her, regardless of the time input not with a deadline (your wedding) in mind.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

You don’t sound concerned you sound like a judgmental brat and none of your updates are helping your case at all. Stop worrying about her hair and mind your business. She can wear it however she wants and do whatever she wants with it, one of the few perks of being an adult.

Post # 40
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Busy bee

weddinggirl2009 :  why would you expect sympathy because you picked a bridesmaid who’s hair you didn’t like??

Post # 41
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122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

why did you ask her to be in your wedding if you don’t like her hair?

 

Post # 42
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93 posts
Worker bee

You keep mentioning that it is past her ankles.  Does she generally trip all over it? 

Are you concerned she might hurt herself walking down the aisle?  No?  Is your concern about how she has split ends and her hair is not beautiful to your eyes?  Yes?  

You and your Fiance are both kind of horrible.  You knew who she was before the wedding. 

Your wedding is not about the photos, btw…. It is about families joining together. Be a better sister to her than this.

Post # 43
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Sugar bee

So what are you saying, OP – you think she has some kind of mental disorder that leads to long hair? Are you a therapist? 

Post # 44
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2527 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

weddinggirl2009 :  Okay, so ask her to step down then. 

No one is going to give you sympathy for being an A-hole to your future sister. It sounds like she might have a legit mental illness or eating disorder and you’re posting on a wedding website because you don’t like the way her hair is going to look in your pictures.

Seriously. Get a grip.

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