(Closed) Bridesmaid with HORRIBLE makeup

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Maybe you could do some pictures beforehand with your girls and show them to her and *maybe* she’ll realize her makeup doesn’t look so great?

Post # 4
2088 posts
Buzzing bee

Just tell her that her daily makeup style is too heavy for a wedding and ask her to scale it back. 🙂

Post # 5
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

As you are haveing 11 maids chances are no one will notice her. 

Post # 6
4801 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@Gingersnap:  I agree. 


You tried to tell her you want light makeup and she should respect that!  11 bridesmaids is a lot otherwise I would have suggested you bring in a makeup artist for your wedding day.

Post # 7
6880 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You could as a guise make an apt with her and you to a make up counter just to try on make up and have them give here a make over and then gush how nice it looks?


Post # 8
4322 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

How are you having your make up done that day? If you’re going to the salon, ask her to join you and spring for her appointment also, and tell her you wanted to have a special day with just the two of you. Tell her why you appreciate her as a friend, and all the ways she is important to you, and tell her you’d like to do something nice for her.

Not offensive, and she will love you for the added attention to your friendship.

Post # 9
47423 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Why don’t you ask her to go to one of the department stores near you where you can book makeovers for free at the makeup counter?

A fun day for the two of you with lunch after? Maybe she will learn something

Take pics and notes so you (and she) can duplicate what you learned.

Post # 10
792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with the do a girls day out with her or something and go get make overs done at a makeup counter, and tell her how nice she looks with her make over, and then go out for something to eat, and chill with her after. Maybe she will get the hint. Good Luck! 🙂

Post # 11
232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I like the idea of doing an outing to a department store makeup counter.  This is probably a weak strategy, but you could always employ some flattery, saying that you’d appreciate it if she could scale back because she’s so glamorous in her normal make-up, and you don’t want her high-fashion look to outshine you on your big day…?

Post # 13
2182 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think you can try what others have suggested and make a day just the 2 of you at the makeup counter. 

But, I think you should be prepared for what may be a reality – that your Bridesmaid or Best Man LIKES her makeup like that. From the sounds it, its pretty intense, and most people wouldn’t wear that much on a regular basis, but I’m sure she knows how much makeup she is wearing and she does it like that for a reason. I think you need to decide whether you are just going to come out and ask her to tone it down. I’d personally be really offended if someone asked me that, and I think when you have 11 bridesmaids, nobody will notice in pictures. I think you need to pick your battles and I’m not sure this is a great choice since you’ll likely end up really hurting her feelings if you say something.  

Post # 14
634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

What a tough situation to be in. On one hand you can’t force her do her make up in a specific way, but on the other hand you want all the bridesmaids to match. PPs ideas were great- maybe do a trail while you are all togther and give specific instructions and see how she does it?

Post # 15
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would be honest, but poliet. 

Do you really think she would be offended if you expressed that you would like her to “humor” your style for your wedding day and try to be more conservative with her makeup for your wedding day??

Tell her your style is more subtle/conservative and you would like your bridemaids to reflect that also (you want everyone to “match”).

Are all the other bridemaids doing there own makeup?  Maybe you can find another less expesive makeup artist and ask all the girls if they would want to pay for having their makeup professionally done?

I only had 4 bridemaids, but they all requested that I find a makeup artist for them, which they each individually paid for. 

Good Luck! Hope it works out whatever way it goes.

Post # 16
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree w/ other posters that have said…. with 11 BMs, she may not even get noticed!

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