Post # 17
Honestly, I think you need to just accept it. I doubt if you hire a make up artist she’ll get her’s done. If she does, she’ll just go touch it up after. Her make up good or bad in your eyes obviously looks good to her or is her “comfort blanket”. I have a friend like this (only its PURPLE EYELINER) and she would feel so out of place if I asked her not to wear her look.
However, I totally agree w/ @December Lanie: If you REALLY can’t deal with her look you can ask her politely to scale it back to match the other girls. Maybe even a compramise and let her cake it on for the reception 😉
Post # 18
why don’t you get three friends to do everyone’s makeup the day of? That way she feels special and has no clue this was done for her specifically.
Post # 19
Maybe you could have three of your bridesmaids that do a nice job with make-up do the others? And then all awww & ooooo over how great she looks?
Post # 21
I have this same problem! I told my Bridesmaid or Best Man that my make up will be simpler than she normally wears hers. I asked her to tone it down for my day so that I would stand out more (not really the case, but she does wear awful blue eyeshadow and cakey make up). I offered to buy her the make up I wanted her to wear. She had no problem with it and she has even been experimenting and asking what I think.
Post # 22
My suggestion would be to have all the girls wear their makeup the same way.. perhaps tell them low-key, provide the color to match the bridesmaids dresses, and ask them not to wear eye-liner, or to do it very lightly… that way she’s not singled out as being the problem. If the worst problem is the foundation being a bit caked on, I don’t think that will really come across in the pictures.
Post # 23
I would suggest a trip to the mall makeup counter as a “trial run” with a group of the girls, then take a few pictures an say “oh that is EXACTLY how I want everyone to look!!”
With 11 maids this could be a really pricey idea, but you could then go back to clinique or wherever and buy the makeup that they liked (so as a result your heavily-lined friend gets a subtle brown liner, a taupe eyeshadow, and a foundation that actually matches her skin) now given makeup prices that’s going to be SUPER pricey for 11, but maybe the other girls could each get a smaller thing and wouldn’t notice/would realize you were trying to be diplomatic? No way have they not noticed that she wears more makeup than they do.
Post # 24
I agree with the poster who said your best bet is to probably to ask her not to wear the black eyeliner. Pick her up some brown eyeliner and a natural shade of eyeshadow. As for the foundation, you can probably ask the photographer to smooth it over in photoshop.