(Closed) bridesmaid with tattoos.

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think it is fine that she has tattoos, that is how people know her and there is no sense in covering it now

 

Post # 33
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Blushing bee

To be honest girls….i read the OP,  to which she CLEARLY  stated that she would NOT single her out,  and that all the girls would be wearing a shrug of some kind…….various posts beneath that were basically accusing her of singling the girl out, so  i think maybe SOME of the bees had not read the whole post. 

i look at it like this … its like choosing a beautiful bridesmaid dress,  then the bridesmaid ruins it with graffitti …..i wouldnt like it. you MIGHT have to compromise and get a slightly different dress to try and hide them…  or the shrug idea,  or i have also seen a lovely little cardigan……and if its good enough for our future queen…………. then hopefully its good enough for your girls. 

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

OP–I read your post, where you said ALL the girls would be asked to wear the shrug because you DIDN’T want to single out your one friend. AND the part where you said it was for ceremony only. So I totally feel your frustration that people are yelling at you for things you already said you wouldn’t do!

Post # 35
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Sugar bee

if this thread was only about the shrugs then the tattoos wouldnt have been mentioned. 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You know the girls you have chosen best, so you know what impact your decision will have.

As long as your not saying I want you to wear shrugs because she has tat’s!! lol. If your saying I want you all to wear these to keep warm but after the formal stuff is done you can take them off if you want then no big deal.

Remember that people have their opinions and you will get ones you want when you post but don’t let that stop you!

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@aprose: You’re right, tattoos are a testy subject for some. I love tattoos 🙂 But I understand that you want a certain look for your wedding. I normally say, “You knew she had tattoos when you asked her” and I will still say that. However, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to make all the BMs wear a cardigan for the ceremony. When it comes down to it, tattoos can be a distraction at the wedding. I’ve seen plenty of BMs with tattoos and I’m like… “Oh wow, she has tattoos all over! That is kind of out of place for this type of wedding”. But it’s not like the whole wedding was ruined. I certainly paid attention and had fun. Anyway, no I don’t have a thing against tattoos… I actually LOVE sleeves, but to help you with your dilemma: I think it’s reasonable to cover up your BMs as long as they are all included, not just one.

Post # 38
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I read your post thoroughly and understand your frustration. I think some bee’s here are getting a bit testy, but then again you did ask for opinions and that what you got. Ultimately the decision is yours. But let me say this, your wedding day is going to fly by and the day will be what you make of it. In the grand scheme of things this really is a minor detail. i dont suggest focusing so much energy into minor details you’ll drive yourself crazy. I still think your wedding will be fabulous regardless of what you choose to do. Go with your gut!

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

as long as the weather makes it reasonable for shrugs and you’re not singling her out (and also not telling her or anyone that the reason they’re wearing shrugs is the one BM’s tats), i think it should be fine.

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You shouldn’t feel attacked, you post something in a public forum on a controversial subject and obviously people are going to have unique opinions, it doesn’t mean they want to claw your eyes out! If all you’re posting for is to get people to agree with you, you probably need to find a less diverse community! Take opinions in stride, all they normally do is reinforce our own opinions =)

As for the tattoos- I think enough points have been made to help you understand the breadth of the issue, you know her best, do what feels best!

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I share your frustration at people not reading the whole post.  Given the way you’ve actually presented it, it sounds like what you’re planning on doing will be considerate of everyone’s feelings (including your own) and perfectly fine.

Post # 42
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@aprose:  Hi! I know this post is kind of old- but it looks like you are married already? I was wondering what ended up happening? My sister is going to be my maid of honor and before I even got engaged we had discussed her tatooes. She has two full sleeves and two giant tatooes above each breast under her collarbones as well as one on the each of the back of her calves. Most of her tatooes are ‘angry’ or sexual as well (dead birds,  skulls, topless mermaid in martini glass, topless mermaids riding unicorn seahorse, etc.) We have already discussed that she will be happy to wear whatever I want her to and cover up anything. I don’t care about her pinup girls on the back of her calves but its her sleeves and chest area tattooes that I would like covered for the ceremony and pictures. Like you, I don’t want people to be distracted and I would prefer them to be covered in pictures as well (I understand she won’t be in a TON but still.)

Just wondering if you have any pictures if you ended up doing a shrug? It will be a bit harder for me as I have to cover her sleeves and the ones on her chest area so I will probably need a halter style dress with a shrug. thank you for your help and I hope everything was a success at your wedding and it was perfect! 🙂

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