(Closed) bridesmaid won't come to my shower

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am so sorry to hear that.  I just had a similar situation with one of mine.  Rather than come to my shower that happens, you know, once in a life time, she decided to go rafting.  I scheduled the entire shower around her to make it work for her and she decided to go white water rafting.  I could have strangled her.  It’s so frustrating!

Post # 4
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4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@jouissance:  Not trying to stir the pot but have you considered that maybe there’s another reason she doesn’t want to go to the shower and she’s using this as a reason to not attend?  Maybe she can’t afford a gift, maybe she feels awkward in these settings, maybe she just really doesn’t like showers and wants to spare you from seeing her sulking the whole time?

Post # 6
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5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d be disappointed if a friend of mine kind of blew me off, but I think you should just let this one go.  She is an adult, and as such you don’t get to tell her how to spend her time or her money. 

Post # 7
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4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@jouissance:  Ah, well that sucks then.  I’m out of excuses for her!  🙂

 

 

P.S. Love that you just said ‘homegirl’.  I say that all the time.  High five.

Post # 8
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I know how you feel 🙁 My Maid/Matron of Honor picked a few possible dates for the shower and then checked with everyone to make sure they were available. One of my bridesmaids just didn’t respond to her (after weeks of asking her), so they went ahead and put down the deposit at the resturant. A couple hours later, my other bridesmaid almost gleefuly told me that she “unfortunately” couldn’t come because she was going out of the country on a trip she planned last year. I honestly think she just really didn’t want to attend & was hoping they’d pick that day so she had an excuse not to come. It just kinda hurt my feelings a little, but oh well. Can’t do anything about it.

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