(Closed) Bridesmaid(BF since 8th grade) dropped out

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

[Edit] Sorry if you saw my post. I misunderstood your last sentence. Regardless she will be at graduation, not your wedding.  thought you were making a big deal out of her coming to your wedding but grad was around the same time.

In that case I say let her go. It is very frusterating, no doubt, but there isn’t anything you can do at this point.It is a good thing she is finally getting this degree done, and I don’t think she did it to spite your wedding day. It just is a sucky situation for you. Sorry.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

@megz06:  This.

I’m not sure I understand, OP. Did she drop out of the bridal party and say she’d attend the wedding as a guest? Or is she saying that she’ll be IN the wedding regardless (as a BM)? I know it must be so upsetting to receive that kind of news, but having her at the wedding (regardless of how she participates) should be a positive thing, no?

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t think her decision to push her graduation back had anything to do with your wedding date, and I seriously doubt she has one bit of say in when the school chooses to have their graduation. I’d totally let this one slide.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It sounds to me like she’s planning to ditch her own graduation in order to be at your wedding. Not sure how that comes through as dropping out of your wedding. Maybe I’m confusing what you wrote?

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

You guys are confused like I was…The post subject says the Bridesmaid or Best Man dropped out, which is what is happening. The way OP wrote it makes it sound like the Bridesmaid or Best Man is ditching her own grad to come to the wedding anyway. I don’t think OP would be so henious to write a post like this if her Bridesmaid or Best Man was actually coming to the wedding instead of her own grad…at least I hope not. :-

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh she’s telling you nice and far in advance that she will be a guest but not a Bridesmaid or Best Man,I think that’s totally reasonable of her?

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What I didn’t realize is that she pushed graduation back to December!!!!!

About a month ago she calls and says I don’t know if I’m going to make it to the wedding because it may be the same day as graduation…… Are you serious????

 

So then she says well it doesn’t matter regardless I’ll be there.

 

im confused :/ regardless she will be where? at your wedding or at graduation?

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Once we go to college, everything changes, even friendship. I’m sure she doesn’t mean any harm but you have to understand that this is also a big step in her life too.  It just happen to be the same day.  She’ll be so busy focused on finals close to your wedding so I say accept that she is ditching her graduation and will be there for you on your big day as your guest.  You both win! 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

This is weird. Are you sure she not coming at all and perhaps justy drop out as a bridesmaid. Graduation doesn’t take all day. It’s weird that missed the whole wedding for it.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I’m guessing her graduation is in a different city than the wedding? Or is your wedding the same time as the graduation?

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