(Closed) Bridesmaid/cousin/friend/MOH dilemma– advice please

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
19 posts

@Creiddylad:  There’s nothing wrong with asking one sister to be Bridesmaid or Best Man and not the other. I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my cousin’s wedding and my younger sister was not asked. She didn’t even care. As for the Maid/Matron of Honor situation – why don’t you have your cousin be the MOH? Keep it in the family, so to speak, so that your friends don’t get offended. 

Post # 5
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Totally fine to ask one cousin and not the other! And if you don’t want/can’t choose a Maid/Matron of Honor, it’s totally fine to have 3BMs!

Post # 6
5955 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

It’s totally fine to not have a designated Maid/Matron of Honor.  In your case it could avoid a lot of drama!

The cousin thing – maybe ask a family member for advice?  I think it depends on family dynamics.  If it’s going to cause drama I’d err on the side of including neither.  YOu already have three other BMs and that’s plenty to juggle.

I personally felt like I had to go all or nothing with my cousins in order to avoid hurting anyone’s feelings.  I decided to go with none of them and just kept it simple.  It was fine.

Post # 7
7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Creiddylad:  I think it is just fine asking one sister but not the other, and as for the Maid/Matron of Honor thing I would say have no one. You don’t have to have a maid of honor, and if it will ruffle feathers or you can’t decide I say just don’t have one 🙂

Post # 8
46590 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Creiddylad:  I agree with the pp. There is no expectation that you would have to ask the older sister when you are not close.

You do not have to have a Maid/Matron of Honor either. You will likely have to choose someone to sign as a witness (most states have this requirement) but other than that, there is nothing tha Maid/Matron of Honor does tha couldn’t be shared amongst the BM’s.

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