(Closed) Bridesmaid/Friends rant…my new year’s resolution

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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519 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I agree! WTH is it with some people?! I know you live like across an ocean, but I only live 4 states away. Honestly. Sorry, people really suck sometimes. At least you found out who your friends really are and you don’t have to have them in pictures 🙂

Post # 4
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry your friends aren’t talking to you as much.  Unfortunately, that is what happens when you move.  My husband and I moved across the country this summer and it’s pretty hard to keep in touch with people back there.  I know it isn’t an excuse but people have school and work and that keeps them busy.  I was full time in graduate school this fall and it kept me really busy.  So maybe cut them some slack for now and try and extend an olive branch.  If they keep ignoring you, then the fingers for sure.  And I’m sorry about your bridesmaid and bridesman.

Post # 5
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Honestly, after I”m a Bridesmaid or Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor in someone’s wedding I do so much work with no reward leading up to and during the wedding that I just want them to disappear after they get married. Yes, I still love them. But I need a break. They had the spotlight for months and I schlepped, spent money and devoted so much time to them that I just need to be away afterwards. Finally get to spend time with other friends and do other things non-wedding related that interest me. It is the most frustrating thing ever when they don’t go on a honeymoon or come right back from the honeymoon and want to hang out. I need about a year before I can even look at pictures.

I knwo I’m not the norm, but maybe your Maid/Matron of Honor kind of felt this way a little. Not coming to your going-away is a little unacceptable unless she did something separate with you ahead of time or after since she knew she wasn’t going to make it. And moving away always = losing touch with friends. Out of sight, out of mind. Happened to me when I moved to NYC!

Post # 6
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168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am so sorry that you have to go through that!  Hopefully you can find “new” friends where you moved to and then you can enjoy the married life!!

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