(Closed) Bridesmaid/Junior Bridesmaid question

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Welcome and congratulations on your upcoming wedding! I’m sorry you’re in such a tricky situation. 🙁 How much would the price increase for the other girls if you only order three dresses instead of four? If you can’t afford to pay for the jr bridesmaid’s dress, would you be able to help the other BMs cover the additional cost to their dresses?

Also, did you buy your wedding dress at a bridal salon? My bridesmaids each got a 20% discount because we bought their dresses at the store where I got my dress. Ended up being less than $140 for a really great Mori Lee Bridesmaid or Best Man dress!

Post # 5
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@soosoos:  Ooh, okay! So, I think my suggestions here are to either see if you can work out a deal with the salon for the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses OR see if you can pitch in the extra to help the other three BMs cover the addition cost? (Hopefully it’s not too much!)

And then it’s up to you for how to handle the jr. bridesmaid. Can I ask who she is (what her relation to you is)? Because she’s a jr bridesmaid, it wouldn’t be weird for her to wear a different dress if they can find one. Or maybe she can have a different role in the ceremony, like passing out programs or something?

Post # 7
Member
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Ooh, not an ideal situation. I don’t think you should take her out of the wedding party, I could only imagine that would be really upsetting for her. I know it’s more money out of your pocket but could you speak to her Mum and offer to pay half? If you are set on having them all in the same dress, I think you should stick with that. If they can’t go halves with you I’m afraid you may just have to pay for it youself.

Post # 8
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@soosoos:  This just stinks. I think it’d be okay for you to tell her you totally understand the financial constraint and you hope that she and her daughter can enjoy the wedding as guests without putting any burden on them. Again, maybe offer to give her another role? Unless you can get a hold of the mom sooner rather than later and work out a way for her daughter to remain in the wedding party.

Post # 9
Member
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m in a similar situation, I’ve already prepared myself for having to pay for my sister and mom’s hair/makeup, as well as my sister’s dress (although dad may pay for it now), and both my Jr. Bridesmaid and Flower girl are financial constrained so I’ll probably just work their dresses into the budget. 

Sorry talked about me there….

Give them a color swatch from the store you got the dresses from and ask them to buy a dress that matches it? And give criteria on the material, length etc…in my opinion it’s ok for the Jr. Bridesmaid to have a diff dress. If they’re still not getting anything that matches your wedding, ask her to step down imo, give her another task. 

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