(Closed) Bridesmaid/officiant dual role

posted 5 years ago in Secular
Post # 2
47206 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

sarahmazing89:  I think they will understand when she starts to speak. She could open with a few words about being honored to serve as both bridesmaid and officiant.

Post # 3
4519 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think the guests will be okay (if you have a program, list her as both, which might help). If you want to differentiate her slightly, maybe have her wear a sash or similar accessory, much like an Maid/Matron of Honor might wear to set her apart. Or, as your mom suggested, do the same dress in one of your other colors.

Post # 4
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

sarahmazing89:  I agree with PP Julies — just have her walk down the aisle like the other BMs, and dressed as the BMs are dressed.  When she moves to front and center and starts speaking, everyone will know who your officiant is!

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Post # 5
3725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

sarahmazing89:  My sister will be Maid/Matron of Honor and our officiant. She is wearing a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress. When she gets down the aisle, she will take her place at the top in the middle where a pastor would stand. I am not concerned about making her look different. She will be performing the service so it should be obvious to any observer exactly what she’s doing.

Post # 8
3725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

sarahmazing89:  Thank you. I hope your wedding goes wonderfully too!

Post # 9
773 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens

Our dads married us – my husband did NOT want to be any part of the processional, so he just kinda walked up to the archway (married outdoors) and stood there. His dad joined him after escorting his step-mom up the aisle. After others, my dad walked me up the aisle, but rather than sitting down, he walked behind us and stood next to Father-In-Law. It turned out wonderfully! 

Post # 10
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I like the idea of her walking in first and taking her place at the front. Maybe instead of a bouquet she wear a corsage? That’s what I did when I officiated for my bff’s wedding.

Post # 11
260 posts
Helper bee

sarahmazing89:  our officiant will be standing in photos as a groomsman, because we adore him.  he will be dressed just like the rest of the groomsmen.  it makes 3 groomsmen to my 2 bridesmaids. 

Post # 12
6 posts
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’m having my aunt officiate and be a bridesmaid, and thinking of having her wear the same as all the other bridesmaids, im wondering if any of you that did this think your alter pictures looked weird or distracting having the officiant wearing a wedding color? 



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