(Closed) Bridesmaids

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Congratulations on your upcoming engagement. 🙂

I would recommend

1) not picking your ‘maids until you have nailed down a wedding date that is a year or less away

2) going with fewer ‘maids you’re closer to, not more that you’re only so-so with. Quality over quantity type of thing.

Post # 5
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1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Don’t have people in your wedding party that you aren’t close with.  These people are going to be in your wedding pictures.  I think it would be nice to make an effort to hang out with your girlfriends if you want to . . . but not b/c you need them to be BMs.  If you are close to some guys, why not have them as your “bridesmen”? Lots of people do that, and it seems to work out fine.

Post # 6
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8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

If the only reason you are reaching out to these people is to “fill your Bridesmaid or Best Man quota” then there’s not really a reason to do it.

If you really do want to be closer to these girls, you should start fostering the relationships.

Honestly though, if I was one of these girls and some how found out that the only reason you fostered a friendship with me was to even out your bridal party I’d feel strange about it.

Also, wait until you are engaged, see where you are in your life at that point and who the important people are to you.

Rather than focusing on your bridal party right now, why not just focus on your friendships/other relationships since you don’t need to pick BMs right now.

Post # 9
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8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Anxiouspeanut: Ah well then definitely reach out to them more! You don’t need an excuse to do it, just do it. Sometimes it’s hard to put yourself out there, but if these are people you like then there’s no reason not to foster the friendships (whether or not the end up being your bridesmaids).

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