(Closed) Bridesmaids

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well, if you don’t want someone in your wedding, don’t have her.  If your Fiance doesn’t like her, and you’re afraid she’ll make a scene, don’t ask her.  If she brings it up again (once you’re actually engaged), say something like, “Unfortunately we wanted to include family and after I asked [other friend(s)], I can’t add another bridesmaid.  I’m so happy you’d love to help me on the Big Day, and hopefully we can find a special role for you to take part.  We’re thrilled to celebrate our wedding with you as a guest.” 

I would ask your FI’s sister.  Even if she says no, it’s a great way to at least make her feel included in your special day.  I’d also try to find other ways to include her; maybe she has a knack for design and can help with programs, Save-The-Date Cards, menu cards, etc… maybe she has some really awesome ideas for reception activities… there are a lot of things she could help with that don’t involve standing up as a bridesmaid.  I think including all family members in some sort of role is really important because it shows you’re open to including your FIs family in your life.   

Honestly though, there’s nothing wrong with mis-matching numbers for the bridesmaids/groomsmen.  Pick the people who you want there with you, who will love and support you through the entire process.  If the numbers match, great.  If they don’t, who cares?  Don’t pick anyone out of obligation!

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