- 7 years ago
So I’m not engaged yet but my boyfriend and I have talked baout it and I know it will be coming sometime in the next few months. My boyfriend and I have briefly discussed who would be in it.
The people we have discussed to be in it is my three brothers for the groomsmen and my sister-in-law and best friend as bridesmaids.
After this conversation of course I have thought more about it because I would assume he would also have his closest friend in the wedding giving it a total of 4.
This means I need two more people however I cannot choose who these people should be. Here are the options and complications that come with them.
My boyfriend has a sister, however she dose not do very well being in front of people and she is very shy. The other problem is (and I dont’ want to sound mean) but she has a severe weight problem where her dress would have to be different from the rest of my bridesmaids. I still would like to ask her to give her the option though. But I don’t think she will say yes.
The next person is a life long friend that I have know since we were babies. I was her maid of honor last spring. She got really weird and had a lot of expections and put me in several weird situations when it came to her wedding. We didn’t talk for like 3 months after her wedding she was very distant with me and never wanted to make plans. Then suddenly she changed and we she each other again on a regular basis. However since her wedding I am not as open with her and to tell her a lot of things that I do the one friend that I have picked out to be in the wedding. Our friendship was so distant that at the time I told myself and a few others that I didn’t even know if I wanted her in my wedding.
Now to the last person I actually know I don’t want her in my wedding but I have a feeling she will be upset. And I dont’ know what to say. She is a co worker and friend so we see eachother every day all day long. She is one that knows all about the friend from the above paragraph. The bad part is while my friends wedding was going on and we talked about it I might have mentioned that I could see her in my wedding. Since that conversations things have changed between myself and that other friend. The reason that really turns me off from having this last friend in my wedding is she is a control freak! I have found that out in the past couple of months. And of all my friends she is the one that my boyfriend cares for the least. She gets very attention horeie when she is drunk and talks about how drunk she is when she is drunk. I dont’ think I can deal with that at my wedding. Also when I told her about how my boyfriend wanted to take me ring shopping the first thing she said was, “we’ll talk about the bridesmaids dresses later” Ahhhh! what do I do?