Post # 1
I’m just wondering if i’m being unreasonable, as my sister just called me bridezilla :-/
I ‘ve asked my sister to be a bridesmaid. Im paying for her dress and shoes and all accessoires, the only thing I ask of her is that she be with us in the morning to get ready, which means she’ll have to fly in the night before. I’ve offered to pay for her flight and have arranged accomodation for her. she refuses claiming its too late to fly at night(9pm 1 hour flight) and she doesnt have any vacation to take the day off work to fly earlier in the day. the flight she wants to take will get her in an hour or two at best before the wedding, so she’ll be doing her own hair and makeup(even though we’re all being done by a professional vintage stylist) and meeet us at the ceremony with the regular guests and will miss all the pre-ceremony pictures and champagne brunch with the rest of my bridesmaids.
am i crazy that i don’t find this acceptable?
am i bridezilla or is she being bridesmaidzilla?
Post # 3
I don’t think she wants to be a bridesmaid.
I’d ask her straight out because arriving a few hours before the wedding is a little crazy and stressful- what it the flight is delayed.
I definitely don’t think you are being a bridezilla at all.
Post # 4
I do not think you’re being a bridezilla. Are y’all not close or something? I don’t understand why a sister would take your wedding so lightly!
Post # 5
I would be reasonable with her and just calmly tell her that you understand that she doesn’t have a lot of vacation time but you need her there earlier than that for several reasons. Like Holly77 said her flight could be delayed. Since she’ll be doing her own hair and make up while everyone else is getting their’s professionally done she might look completely of place. The traffic might be bad on her way to meet up with you guys so she might miss some of the pictures if you do some before the ceremony. You will probably be extremely stress if she gets there that late. If she can’t be there as early as you need her maybe she shouldn’t be a bridesmaid.
Post # 6
Maybe she don’t want to be bridemaid actually for the work. So you can ask some other one to instead of her. Just be straight.
Post # 7
i think she is being very selfish, and unco-operative, and i would drop her like that! sister or no sister, there is no rule book saying that you have to have your sister as your bridesmaid.
i think it is one little thing that you have asked her to do, and if i was asked to be a bridesmaid i would feel so privilaged and do everything to help my bride friend out even if i had to travel 1 am in the morning nothing is too early.
i dont think your being a bridezilla, but then again i do not know how you have approached her or spoken to her in what tone, but i think it is a simple enough request, if she can call you a name over asking that then she is not worth the hassle.
you as a bride would be stressing out and her as the bridesmaid is to calm you down and help you out, its not about her this is your day and eevryone should be helping YOU out, you dont need that UNnessary stress tbh, so just drop her out and get someone else! i would be soooo ANNOYED!
Sorry i hope you resolve this issue! good luck!
Post # 8
Agree with the above posters. She doesn’t sound very interested. Just attending weddings, I usually fly in the day before!
Post # 9
@lilnat22: The wedding is your day her arriving that close to the time of the ceremony is only putting extra stress on you which isnt fair to you at all. She needs to understand that you asked her to stand beside you on your wedding day because it was important for her to be a part of your special day so you would think she could be a bit more accomodating. Youre not being a bridezilla at all!!!!!!