(Closed) Bridesmaids

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper

Rent over bridesmaid expenses every. single. time.

If there is more to the story please share. If the ‘more’ is that she can’t afford it for other reasons you could always pay her expenses. If she really just doesn’t want to be a bridesmaid–well, then, she won’t be a bridesmaid. 

Post # 17
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Bumble bee

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Post # 18
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Bumble bee

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Weddings are exponsive. Being a part of a wedding party can cost upwards of a thousand dollars. That’s a month of rent for your future sister in law! So I can understand that being too much for her. Maybe help her out with costs?

You do NOT get to judge what your future sister in law spends her money on. She gets to decide how much she’s comfortable spending on housing and where she wants to live. She gets to decide what is a reasonable portion of her income to spend on living, food, savings, and other. Your wedding falls in the “other” category. Her comfort with wear she lives and how much she spends monthly by far trumps spending money on YOUR wedding.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2022

I’m from the UK and we do things a bit different butttt it is my thinking that a bridesmaid should not be any more out of pocket to attend your wedding than another guest!! It’s supposed to be an honour and not a financial pressure. BMs might choose to spend a bit more on a gift or stay in the bride’s hotel but only if they want to because it’s their best friend or sister.

 

What else are you asking her to pay for??

Post # 23
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

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Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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bett28 :  How much she pays for rent has nothing to do with paying for her part in your wedding. Like other bees have said, it’s up to her how she spends her finances. I would maybe talk to your Future Mother-In-Law about helping to cover the cost of her daughter being a bridesmaid, but if you can’t cover it, then you can’t cover it. It sucks, but it happens.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Ok, so all kidding aside, please come back and enlighten us with the whole story and help us understand a bit more. 

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Um…leave her alone? 

Post # 27
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

 And the full story is…?

Post # 29
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Busy bee

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Post # 30
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Honey Beekeeper

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