Post # 1
I am so stressed out! I have two close relatives as Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaid. Well, one of them after I asked her mentioned that she had a big tattoo on her back and was happy to wear a dress that covers it. now she says she doesn’t care if it shows, and that if the tattoo is a problem, she will not be in the wedding. i’m having trouble finding a dress under $150 that covers her shoulders and is in a color I like, and she is on a budget. plus, if i choose a dress that covers her shoulders, she will be offended. if i choose one that doesn’t, i might just feel weird about having her look so untraditional in a conservative church.
the second bridesmaid is incredibly picky about the dress color because of her red hair color. but i just think that all of the colors she picks out are too bright or too dark… she can’t stand pastels, but i want a light colored wedding! she is also incredibly shy, and she asked whether i can just have two of my friends be bridesmaids instead so she won’t have to walk down the aisle. i asked if she and the Maid/Matron of Honor are backing out because I need to know that NOW (the wedding is in 5 months). she said no, they aren’t. but now i’m afraid they will last minute.
Post # 3
Aggh… why bridesmaids have to be one of the toughest parts of the wedding process is beyond me!
As for the girl with tattoo. David’s bridal has wraps and boleros that you can get in the color of the dress for super cheap. I would say try finding a dress there and then get the wrap/jacket for her to wear in the ceremony/photos. Then who cares what she does after those two things are done.
For the other girl, I would just let her know that these are the colors to choose from. Try to find something that meets in the middle of what she wants and you.
Post # 4
i’m just worried that if i choose a wrap, she will be so offended that she is singled out… sort of offended that i’m not celebrating her tattoo… that she will drop out of being Maid/Matron of Honor. she already threatened to.
Post # 5
I don’t think you should do anything about her tattoo. Its really not a big deal, and its a part of her. I’d be pissed if someone told me that I couldn’t wear something becuase of my tattoo. 2 of mine showed when I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man for my friend, and it was in a church too. Mine is going to show at my wedding too.
Post # 6
right, but i don’t have a tattoo so i can’t really empathize. she offered to cover it, and now she’s offended. she should have not offered from the beginning if she didn’t care about it showing.